Would you report to social services??

[Rhmama]

Hi!

So on our estate we have a small park and I've noticed recently very young children are playing alone in the park for hours. One of them looks to be around 3 if not younger she's sometimes alone or with her brother but he's also very young maybe just turned 4. The childrens mother lives right next to the park and she can probably see them from one of the upstairs window if she wanted to check on them but even so I feel anything could happen to them. They are often just in pjs and just don't seem to be getting cared for very well, the mother has a new born baby and spends most the day in her pjs aswell when I see her come to the door.

Not to sound stuck up but it's a nice new build estate and no social housing as far as I know not that this matter really.

Would you report this??

Thanks

Not to sound stuck up but it's a nice new build estate and no social housing as far as I know not that this matter really

So why mention it then?

Exactly this!

U sound very stuck up and I agree with the other comments posters have made but to answer the actual questions yes u should report to ss. If they are very young then yes it's bad and lazy parenting

I don't know why i feel I need to mention this sometimes I guess with big council estates you see children playing alone from a young age as the mams all kind of know other or other children on the estate to look out for them maybe. But this estate is all new people and no seems to really know each other well

Wtf has whether it is or isn't a council house got to do with anything? Ffs.

I probably would unless the Mum is actually watching from the window the whole time.

When in doubt and you feel something isn't right report it. Child protection is everyone's responsibility.

The social services will either decide its a non issue or will help support the family through the HV or signpost to organisations like Home start.

You can do so through the NSPCC website and email them your concerns, they may reply requesting more information and then pass it on to relevant people in your area.

Yes I would report it

I probably should have worded that bit better. all I'm trying to do is explain it's not really an estate where big groups of children are playing out all times of the day and kind of look out for each other like you kind of get on council estates and you often have family around the corner etc. It's a brand new estate with not many children going about they are just alone in the park.

Yes report it if it’s late, they’re very young and aren’t being supervised. But it not being social housing and the mother of a newborn being in pyjamas all day really isn’t relevant nor an issue. I was in pyjamas all day most days when I had newborns and I own my house on a very nice estate. Young children playing in a park alone is the only issue here.

I know, I'm just trying to get the whole situation across the best I can. The children and herself do not appear to be getting dressed all day and to me that's a little worrying. I'm sure if you had other children with a new born you would still have got them up and dressed for the day not just opened the door and let them out alone for hours and not dressed just in pjs?? To me caring for your children is getting them prepared for the day so showered dressed etc? and the fact this lady isn't getting out of her pjs to me is another sign she is maybe not coping with 3 children

She probably isn’t. The first 6 weeks I rarely got dressed with both my newborns and we rarely left the house tbh. She’s probably still recovering from the birth, it took me 2 months with my second to recover and I suffered with PND. The other children playing alone is the issue. You know what I’d really appreciate if I was in her position? Now I know everyone’s different but a knock on my door from a friendly compassionate neighbour asking how I’m doing would have really helped. Try that and ask if she’d like coffee. She might cry on your shoulder but you’ll be able to assess the situation in more detail to see if she needs intervention. You could literally save her if she is really struggling.

obviously if the kids are in danger then a report needs to be made, but next time you spot her kids playing alone, give her door a knock.

Yea I'd report, they should not be left unattended, the mother sounds very naive.

I do think that most people with older children manage to get dressed even with a newborn, to be honest, if only to get the older ones to school or nursery. I’m certainly not claiming that @Winceybincey is wrong, but I wouldn’t say only wearing pyjamas for six weeks postpartum is typical either.

If you report and there is nothing wrong - no problem
If you report and there is something wrong - you could save a child

If you don't report and there is nothing wrong - no problem
If you don't report and there is something wrong - it could be serious

There was a thread a few days ago about the boy Sebastian who died. People asked why no one knew or did anything.

Please report.

I'm going to double check the house number tomorrow and report. Thank you I definitely agree with your comment

I don’t think her being in pyjamas is a red flag as such but if the children are playing out they should be appropriately dressed and supervised. Three and four is very little. I wonder if they have slipped out unnoticed while she sleeps.

Nah she's knows they are out playing as they are in the park most nights. The first time I seen the little girl I was so worried I followed her as I thought she was lost and she just let herself back in the house. I know her wearing pjs isn't a issue I just mean the whole family don't seem to get dressed I find it worrying.

Have you spoken to her about it? I'd do that before speaking to the government behind her back.

I don't think I would feel comfortable speaking to someone about this. I'm a shy person anyway so I would really struggle with this type of situation

Yes I would report it.
When the children are next at the park alone, call the police (non emergency number)

Oh god, stop talking!!!