Am I the only one?

[carrotcruncher81]

Who won't leave their baby to go out in the evening, over night etc.

First time Mum and I genuinely feel like I'm the only mum who isn't comfortable with leaving their baby. I have friends who have been going out at night since the baby was 6 weeks old. Friends who went on a hen in Ibiza when their babies were 3 months.

I've just gone back to work and so leaving him at nursery was hard enough, but I've got used to it now and the fact he is so settled and happy there makes life easier!

My LO one at 16 months still wakes in the night (not all the time, but I would say 90%) the thought of him waking up with me not there puts me off even attempting to leave him. I just think he's still so small and I'll have plenty of time to go out and do those things when he's older.

Of course there is a part of me that feels trapped at times. I look at people and sometimes I'm envious that they're able to leave their children and not worry, but I know it's not forever.

I also feel like I'm judged for the way I am. Like people are questioning my decision or even judging my parenting skills as LO still wakes in the night and needs/wants me.

Just feel a bit meh!

Essentially it’s whatever feels ok for you, so long as you’re not imposed upon to be present. Frankly I had no problem leaving mine, I went out when they were babies to attend work do etc. We all feel it differently and react accordingly, it’s not morally superior or better to stay in. Just as it’s not an omission to go out when you have children. Do what works for you.

I will go out and leave my baby with my husband but no one else, we have done a couple of hours in afternoons here and there together for the cinema or lunch and left our baby with grandparents but I’m not ready to do an overnight with a grandparent yet! I just feel they won’t do his routine properly and his sleep will be affected Etc

It seems reasonable to me. When they were still infants, I went out to work, social events, and other obligations without any trouble at all. We all experience it in our own unique ways and respond to it in our own unique ways; staying home is neither ethically superior or better.
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Depends who you’re leaving them with. Grandparent or Aunty, no problem. But a hired babysitter is a hard no for me, especially if I don’t know them well. I will leave my kids in a secure setting with CCTV and staff who are qualified and DBS checked. Totally different to leaving them at home where anything could happen! Basically I don’t trust other people.