Neighbour dispute

[Kat4one]

Hi this my first post hoping to get some advice. I've lived in my flat now nearly 2years I've had a few argument with the downstairs neighbours he's lived here 23years and thinks he owns the place he's a grumpy old man and finds anything to complain about. And recently I've been having problems with dog mess in my garden I don't own a dog but there's others that do and because I complain I'm now getting grief off others in the flats. I rarely go outside as my anxiety is through the roof. I spend nearly all my time now sat in my bedroom because of all this I'm at the end of my tether with it all can't cope. I feel like I don't fit in here and everyone else better than me and it's really depressing me. Can anyone suggest and organisations that could maybe help me with my anxiety and depression. I'm sorry if this sounds like a stupid post but I really need to talk to someone but don't know who. I have 11year old twins and now they starting to feel isolated too and I feel like I'm failing them.

I don’t have any advice sorry, but I’m so sorry to hear what you’re going through. I hope you get a positive resolution soon.

Do please contact your GP, there are some possible underlying causes of anxiety (thyroid issue, low B12/low vitamin D for example that can be easily treated) or some medication can really help with anxiety and stop things feeling so bad so that you are better able to deal with situations. It would be beneficial to contact the GP sooner rather than later so that you can start to live and enjoy life with your twins.
The GP will be able to refer you for counselling but you can also self refer, Google self refer talking therapies and an NHS page will come up with links.
every time I try to attach the link it wipes out everything I’ve just typed!

Mind also have a helpline, link below
www.mind.org.uk/information-support/types-of-mental-health-problems/anxiety-and-panic-attacks/useful-contacts/
they do also have some centres where you can drop in, chat to people and have a coffee and just realise you are not alone. Just Google Mind & your area and see if there is one near you. I will post this before it vanishes…again! If I find more links I will pop back. I hope things feel brighter for you soon

Sorry to read this. You can always call samaritans on 116 123. Is moving an option? This can perhaps be something for you to work on in future. I know moving is hard but I just know life is too short to feel alienated in this way. You are not failing as a parent! Some people are just crazy. So many angry entitled people around these days. Everyone huffing and puffing about everything. A move somewhere local may be helpful. I wouldn’t live somewhere where I felt this way. It is never too late or impossible. I believe in signs and following instincts. Sometimes something which you thing is a mountain to climb maybe worth it.

www.mind.org.uk/information-support/types-of-mental-health-problems/anxiety-and-panic-attacks/self-care/

www.nhs.uk/mental-health/talking-therapies-medicine-treatments/talking-therapies-and-counselling/nhs-talking-therapies/

if you just need someone to listen you can always phone the Samaritans, they don’t offer advice but are a voice at the end of the phone.

Thank you for replying I will have a look at the links you sent I really can't carry on like this it's got to the stage now that I don't even open my curtains anymore just sit in the house crying and I'm scared it's effecting my kids. But I'll definitely look into the the links tysm.

Start with the anxiety, phone your gp ask for support. Even if you were rehoused tomorrow it would still be there but just find a different focus, getting help for it with put a better perspective on the neighbour situation and equip you to deal with your dc.

Long story! We brought our house April 2022. From around 5 weeks since we moved in our neighbour complained she could hear us. We said oh sorry sort of thing we’d just moved in putting things up and to be more mindful. Fast forward a year, throughout the year she’s complained multiple times to the housing association( we have shared owernship so only own half) they’ve looked into it we’ve done a sound test that’s passed, they’ve even come to our property to check the doors ect and they are satisfied that it is just normal household noise so they’ve now closed the case. Now since the neighbour has received the letter confirming nothing can be done due to everything being completed she’s now started to bang on the walls slam her doors it’s just getting really petty. I’m so stuck what to do as I can’t live like this she’s scaring my 2yo and I’m just generally upset with having to even think about what I’m doing. My partner works Monday-Friday and I work Saturday and Sunday so there’s hardly anyone over loud music ect. She’s always said it’s been a loud banging noise. My other neighbour who we are more attached to has no problems and cannot hear us at all so I don’t know whether she just is jealous or just has it in for us. We are a young couple (25&27) I have now reported to 101 as harassment so they are now looking into this. I was just wondering if anyone had gone through anything similar and knows how to settle my mind? Thank you