i'm not sure if this is the right place to post but was wondering if anyone had any advice/suggestions...i know some people may not be bothered by things like this but it does matter to me...
i have kept my surname since i've gotten married & never had any intention of changing my name as i've always felt like it's my identity - particularly as i'm a different ethnicity to my husband. anyways, whenever we've sent out any cards, etc. to people (particularly his relatives as they tend to be traditional), i tend to put a return address label that clearly has our names on it (i.e. with my name not being Mrs John Smith but clearly typed as Ms Jane Doe). anyways, we always get mail sent to us addressed as 'Mr & Mrs John Smith' which annoys the h*ll out of me as i hate the implication of not having my own identity. on top of this, i am now doubly annoyed as we decided to double-barrel our DD's name & had clearly indicated this in our birth announcements & most of DH's relatives have ignored this & address her with only DH's surname....
the question is how do i resolve this issue because it really bugs me. i've thought about sending a family update newsletter type of thing with a 'P.S.' at the bottom but don't really know what is best....this is driving me nuts as i've just come back from a great christmas holiday & had to open numerous incorrectly addressed christmas cards from DH's family!
sorry for the novel.....just had to offload somewhere as DH hasn't really been much help. i've mentioned to him that he should say something to his mom (as she always addresses bday cards to me incorrectly) but to no avail...
any advice would be greatly appreciated