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emzylou76 · 30/05/2022 10:19

So we moved in to a lovely home 2 years ago it was great we had currently been living next to drug dealers and it was horrible, was happy in our new home. A year later some new people moved in across from us ( the people that swapped with them warned us they aren't nice people ).
I parked in a visitors space one day which is close to my house Infront of there house ( it's a first come first serve space ) as I was parking and getting my child out the new guy pulled up to park in his allocated space next to me. He was huffing and puffing cutting me nasty looks so I said to him, politely "this is a visitor's for anyone" he then started shouting at me calling me a fat cunt and all the names under the sun. The guy he was with started too saying she is just a cunt of a woman block her in. I got my child in and rang housing officer. My neighbour text me to see if I was ok as she saw and heard it all. I reported it to housing ( left a message ).
That evening my partner went out to speak to him and said " please do t speak to my misses like that again!
Then she came out and started telling obesnities at us we just couldn't reason with her.
I decided I would report the incident to the police I couldn't believe we had now moved and they new neighbors were abusive and nasty like the old ones. The police said they wouldn't do anything and the housing did nothing too.
Since the incident myself and my partner continued to park in the space when it was available.
My partner sometimes has tools in van and need to have the van close to hear alarm go off incase it's broken Into. We have an allocated space too as they do but they think they own the visitors next to they're allocated Infront of there house. I decided to record on my phone everytime I came home and left my house I just felt the tension, and I was getting dirty looks snide comments under there breath if I saw them. The housing and police did nothing to support me. My anxiety has reached massive highs and she was out side shouting about how I had parked one day I was within the parking bay but then she decided to block my car side in where my 2 year-old car seat door is.
She was pushing and pushing talking and shouting to all the neighbours about me ( nobody really talks to anyone ) 4 days of her mouthing off in the street while I was in my house.
My anxiety was so bad I contacted my doctor and they prescribed me some medication I was shaking.
I also have fibromyalgia and chronic fatigue so I need my car near my house it's hard with a toddler so I just continued to park where I wanted I wasn't going to be bullied.
My partner and my daughter and myself went out on the Saturday morning my partner spoke to her and said stop blocking in my partners car to which she replied tell your misses to go lose some weight (she is not slim herself ) my anger was growing my anxiety was through the roof . When we came home I just knew something was going to boil up.I put my phone on record. We were getting out of the car and she came over to me shouting and screaming she had photos of my car and all the neighbours hate me and she has called the police on me.
I saw red she was practically nose to nose with me ! I completely lost it and I pulled her hair and punched her away from me! I just couldn't take anymore. She then continued to be shout at my self and partner making accusations about my partner which aren't true! he came out( her partner ) and started too. I walked away and so did my partner. My daughter was in the car with her back to the whole incident in the car seat luckily she saw nothing.
The police were called and I admitted everything. I was honest and very very regretful for the attack. I still am 🥺 I didnt hurt her thank goodness. The police saw what was going on and advised me to get a body camera which I wear all the time I'm going out and coming home.
No charges were held against me and they could see I had been bullied. The police said to me that I can park where I want and that it is first come first serve.
My partner and I still park there when it's free.
Now they are getting friendly with all the neighbours and turning them all against me. She is outside shouting about me to them all the time. I feel hemmed in my home everyday. She still continues to cut me dirty looks which I have on camera. I'm just at my wit's end with all the gossiping outside my window. My neighbour who heard the first incident with him swearing at me has backed me through it all and can't stand them. Nobody speaks to me bit that's fine. They are so friendly with everyone it's fine but I want the taking about me loudly in street to stop !
She also called social services on me to which they were not impressed and said they have no concerns for my child. She told them I scream at my toddler when my partner isn't home, they aren't taking may action against me and not happy with her wasting there time

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PAFMO · 30/05/2022 10:27

You have filmed people and punched someone, yet they are the problem?

This all started because one day you didn't park in your allotted space but near their house?

You need to park near your house because of your physical problems, and you have an allocated space. Was it your partner's van in that space when you had to take the communal visitors space? Your partner really needs to leave your allocated space for you. Can't he bring his tools in?

WildCoasts · 30/05/2022 10:34

PAFMO · 30/05/2022 10:27

You have filmed people and punched someone, yet they are the problem?

This all started because one day you didn't park in your allotted space but near their house?

You need to park near your house because of your physical problems, and you have an allocated space. Was it your partner's van in that space when you had to take the communal visitors space? Your partner really needs to leave your allocated space for you. Can't he bring his tools in?

Huh? It sounds like it's general street parking. Anyone can park there. People park outside my house. I don't say anything because I don't own the street.

TibetanTerrah · 30/05/2022 10:40

I was with you until you punched her.

BracedlnEndIessJanuary · 30/05/2022 10:41

It is not going to get any better. I would be looking to swap somewhere if I were you.

MagneticRubberDucks · 30/05/2022 12:37

If it’s affecting you so much why do you continue to park there knowing it’s going to continue the problem?

clearly they feel they are entitled to the space, they aren’t, but by continuing to park there on purpose to prove that point you have made this the massive deal that it now is.

they are obviously unreasonable obnoxious people, but you have caused this to be the ridiculously massive problem that it is.
and by physically assaulting her you definitely stopped well below their level.

you are now the one in the wrong.

if you want it all to stop, just stop parking in the space, park somewhere else and stop filming them.

Basilbrushgotfat · 30/05/2022 12:46

If the police have advised her to weara body camera I don't think we should be telling the op to stop tbh.

Op - you can't stop them from talking loudly about you outside, you're just going to have to find a way to let it go over your head. You get on with your neighbours and the police backed you. Accept it as a win and do your best to keep the peace and not continue to aggravate the situation.

PAFMO · 30/05/2022 15:01

WildCoasts · 30/05/2022 10:34

Huh? It sounds like it's general street parking. Anyone can park there. People park outside my house. I don't say anything because I don't own the street.

The OP says they all have allocated spaces, but the day the other man got abusive, she was parked in one of the "free" places. I was querying why she hadn't been able to park in her allocated spot, especially as she is disabled, but understood her partner had parked in their designated spot.
I was just referring to her saying she needed to be near her own house because of mobility issues.
I agree everyone should be able to park where they want, but this sounds like there are designated spaces as well as free ones, and for some reason she hadn't been able to get into her designated one.

emzylou76 · 30/05/2022 15:03

TibetanTerrah · 30/05/2022 10:40

I was with you until you punched her.

It's called being pushed to my limit and having someone in my face was the last straw !! Judge all you want I know I'm wrong

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emzylou76 · 30/05/2022 15:05

Basilbrushgotfat · 30/05/2022 12:46

If the police have advised her to weara body camera I don't think we should be telling the op to stop tbh.

Op - you can't stop them from talking loudly about you outside, you're just going to have to find a way to let it go over your head. You get on with your neighbours and the police backed you. Accept it as a win and do your best to keep the peace and not continue to aggravate the situation.

I do not do anything to aggravate any thing at all at any point, I was pushed to my limits and I regretfully acted on it. I'm being bullied ! Contiously on a daily basis.

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JustTheOneSwan · 30/05/2022 15:12

You need to move.
Wether you were driven to it or just chose it, it was you who escalated the situation to violence.
You can't just go about attacking people, regardless of the reason.
If what you say is right and the police/HA are aware of the antisocial behaviour you should be able to request a multi disciplinary team review (where the agencies involved get together and decide who is going to help you) that should be your next step.
By attacking her you've given her plenty to shout about, again you need to move away.

LIZS · 30/05/2022 15:15

You assaulted her?! And you still park in the space knowing it winds them up? No wonder housing won't back you up. Don't think you can record her without or signage btw.

TibetanTerrah · 30/05/2022 15:25

emzylou76 · 30/05/2022 15:03

It's called being pushed to my limit and having someone in my face was the last straw !! Judge all you want I know I'm wrong

I do judge I'm afraid. Years ago we had an aggressive housemate, so there really was no escaping it. One night she came out with boxing wraps on her hands and threatened me. I shrugged and said go ahead, I'd love to have you arrested for assault and evicted. She then set her cousin on me who put her fist in my face to scare me, I just smiled and said the same. In the end the housemate did hit another housemate and she was indeed arrested and evicted.

Some people are scum and bullies. But you never sink to their level. Now the police have filed this under "neighbour dispute" and see you both as bad as each other, rather than the campaign of harassment and abuse as you say. You've shot yourself in the foot badly.

childofthecorn · 30/05/2022 15:45

I don't have huge sympathy because it sounds like you goaded the situation by continuing to park in the visitor space to wind them up and antagonise them. I mean that was unreasonable of them initially, but you have to pick your battles else it escalates.... Like it has!!!

Thegoodbadandugly · 11/04/2023 21:43

It seems your the ones causing the trouble, you continue to park in their space and you assaulted her your in the wrong. Perhaps you need to move

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