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Is it just me???

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woodpops · 23/11/2004 14:13

DD b'day is 23rd December and it really wazzes me off when people buy her 'joint' xmas/b'day presants. Or wrap her birthday presants in Xmas paper. Dh at 1st thought I was just being silly but now it's started to bother him as well.

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zephyrcat · 23/11/2004 14:14

my dd's birthday is xmas day - she'll be 3 this year so up til now she wouldnt have noticed - but it really really bugs me!!

JuniperDewdrop · 23/11/2004 14:14

No I'd be very bothered too. Tell them in advance it isn't on.

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woodpops · 23/11/2004 14:16

We make comments about it all year round. But it seems to go in one ear and out the other with some family!!!

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lou33 · 23/11/2004 14:17

bothers me too. Dd2 is 29th december, and i am 3rd jan. I used to get joint ones, and have made my feelings about dd having a joint pressie v clear. It's not about how much they spend, but rather the disappointment she would feel after all the excitement and build up.

ponygirl · 23/11/2004 14:18

Ds1's birthday is 30th December and dd is 10th January and I know exactly where you're coming from. When I was expecting ds1, who was due on 22nd December, we made is extremely clear to family that we expected the two events to be treated seperately. So far, we haven't had problems, though we remind everyone every year too!

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TurnAgainCat · 23/11/2004 14:19

This does not bother me. Some people (eg school friends) just come to his birthday and some friends (eg family friends) just see him at Xmas. If people give one present for both, or birthday present with Xmas paper, I just choose which event to allocate it to and let ds open some presents on his birthday and some presents on 25 Dec. Does it bother you because you feel DD is being treated differently by these people than her siblings?

JuniperDewdrop · 23/11/2004 14:19

My MILs bday is on 31st of Dec and she's never had much fuss made of her until I came on the scene. I make sure she gets as much as she would do if her bday were any other day.

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woodpops · 23/11/2004 14:20

Lou you have the same b'day as my dh and grandma . I've even thought about celebrating her birthday in June rather than December.

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Lonelymum · 23/11/2004 14:21

ds2's birthday is 21st December. It is a real pain having it so close to Christmas isn't it? Though the worst must be having it on Xmas day itself. Mind you, I should have known how bad it was as mine is New Year's Eve.

zephyrcat · 23/11/2004 14:23

Because dd's is on xmas day, this year we are having a little party for her on jan 3rd and taking her to the panto. I'm going to suggest that everyone keeps their presents for that day then hopefully they will be seperate and dd shouldnt mind too much as we'll do the cake thing etc on xmas day as well and she'll still have her xmas presents

NomDePlume · 23/11/2004 14:24

It's bug me too, woodpops. None of my kids were Christmas babies so we've avoided this !

Lonelymum · 23/11/2004 14:24

I'd love to grouse about another problem having a b'day at that time of year: you can never get decent b'day cards as the shops are full of Xmas cards. I also notice this with my other children:
ds1's b'day is near or sometimes coincides with Fathers Day
dd's is near Easter
ds3's is near Valentines Day.

I know I should be more organised and buy their cards earlier, but I haven't managed to do so yet.

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woodpops · 23/11/2004 14:24

It's certainly a challenge thinking of something for birthday and Christmas. I've said since she was born that the minute she moans about her b'day being so close to Xmas I will remind her that she was 5 days late

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NomDePlume · 23/11/2004 14:25

'It's bug me' ?!!! I meant It'd bug me. Spanner

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woodpops · 23/11/2004 14:26

Getting cards is a nightmare. Between the 23rd Dec and the 3rd Jan I have dd, bil, dh and grandma all with birthdays. I always get the cards in September otherwise have no chance of getting any nice cards!!!!

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SweetFudge · 23/11/2004 14:30

My DH's birthday is on the 23rd December too and occasionally he'd get joint presents as a child..which annoyed him and made his mum fume.

DH's mum decided celebrate his birthdays on the 23rd Dec with the family but held his birthday parties in summer for his schoolmates to attend. It worked out pretty well and is fairer on children with Christmas birthdays!

Nowadays, I have sometimes gotten DH one big birthday and Christmas gift but only by consent when I know he wants something that is pretty expensive. Ditto his family.

Cam · 23/11/2004 14:40

My dh is Jan 1 and my dd Jan 19. The advantage of these is that I take great advantage of the sales immediately after Christmas to get them some good pressies! Also, I can then forget about them and really enjoy my own summery June birthday!!

whizzz · 23/11/2004 21:07

Bothers me as my birthday is Xmas Eve !
The older I've got, the more it bothers me - I hate birthday pressies wrapped in Xmas paper and Xmas cards put inside birthday cards !! Rant, rant...and you can never go out as restaurants are full & you can only eat turkey / can't get a babysitter / everyones too busy anyway / can't get a taxi....rant rant !

CrazyLady · 23/11/2004 21:13

I have 2 friends whos kids are one 17th Dec & 3rd Jan, and I always buy them sep pressies, they didnt ask to be conceived and born that close to xmas, the mothers always comment to all the other family & friends on how I always buy 2 pressies.

CrazyLady · 23/11/2004 21:15

Also it will bother me as I am due around xmas time, so bump will have already xmas pressies, and has birth pressies too, I made my mom buy separates.

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