Wedding

[Lollipopslife17]

so, partners sister is getting married at a hotel and we are to pay for our hotel stay. I am just wondering if that's a thing. invited Guests pay. I Dont really mind paying even though partner's sister is a bitch (only going because my partner & kids who are both under 10 are so going so going to support them) but wondering if that's the way it's done. Sorry if it's sounds silly- I Dont really go to weddings (well Dont have friends etc).
we also have to buy & pay for the little brides dress 🤷🏽‍♀️🤔 is that how it's done?

It is normal that you pay for your hotel stay. Some couples pay for the bridesmaid dresses, others don't.

Re accomodation, yes generally people pay for their own if they want to sleep over but you don't have to sleep over or use the place she picks, it's just easier and sometimes cheaper.

Re bridesmaids / page boy outfits, its how some brides do it, not how others. If you don't want to pay, you hmm decline their jobs

We have always paid for accommodation, but not necessarily at the venue - usually not.

Re bridesmaids, I paid for my bridesmaids' dresses and the bride paid when DD was a bridesmaid.

I would have been happy to buy DD's dress myself assuming it wasn't a fortune.

Yes it's completely normal to have to pay for your own accommodation.

As a guest:
I have always paid for the accommodation/room myself when invited to a wedding.

Unless the venue is in the middle of nowhere or too far away from home, guests don't have to use the wedding venue and also have the choice of not stopping and just heading home at the end of the night.

As the wedding couple:
We will be paying for a parents room (retired and on very low state pension) and also child (student at Uni, so again low disposable income). *
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Other than that, everyone is paying for their own room and making their own decision to if they use our venue, choose to stay elsewhere or heading home.

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Sorry, just saw the bit about bridesmaids dress too.

I have been a bridesmaid 3 times and only once had to pay for my own dress.

My son was part of a wedding party and I had to pay for his outfit, so definitely a mixed bag on that front. All just comes down to the wedding couple.
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