Over heard conversation about me! what to do?

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I was in a room at school and i overheard a conversation about something i done yesterday. And before anyone says anything i didnt have my ear to the wall as i was working with a child and the walls are like plyboard stuff.

Anyway i heard 'xx really didnt want to change her'. It doesnt sound like a lot but (it was about taking a grown up child to the toilet and giving assistance) but it was to higher management. I never expected her to say anything like this.

I checked with someone else discretly that if they thought this was the case and they said no and i actually volunteered to help her and how was mch help was needed.

I didnt do anything today but would you tomorrow? Say something to the manager or to the person that said it and what would you say?

i would have coughed loudly. tell her you heard her

Has the person who said it got any reason to want to get you in the manager's bad books?

I cant think of any and she might not have known it was me in the room.

I got really annoyed as it wasnt that i didnt want to change her it was that i didnt know the child or how much help was actually required and i was trying to let her have dignity.

anyone else?

I would speak to the 'higher management' and say 'I hope you didn't think I didn't want to change XXX the other day, because..'and then go on to explain your reasons.

You can be quite lighthearted about it. As long as YOU know you were doing the right thing, I would try not to let it bother you too much.

I would do what maidamess said and in future I would say something straight away to the person who was talking about me. Not rudely, but just to clarify things.

I agree. I think you should go to the person she spoke to yesterday and say that you did hear what was said and that you felt it was unjustified and that it is important that she has the true picture.

Own up to the manager and say that you overheard the conversation and you are very upset as it wasnt true and put the record straight, then maybe say something like that you hope it wasnt intentionally said for you to overhear as the walls are extremely thin and hoped that if someone had a problem with you that you hope that they would come to you first, good luck

How unpleasant for you. I'm going to agree with Maidamess as well - you need to make sure the manager doesn't have the wrong impression.

Stick up for yourself. Say to your manager

i will do thankyou all. I am annoyed by it.

Am also up for review shortly as i havent been there that long.

I would say to the Manager that you had overheard the conversation and explain the situation and then I would tell the person who was talking about you that you had heard them talking about you, that you had told the manager about your concerns and leve her to look stupid.

she might have been saying it as a way of saying that expecting staff to change children is unacceptable??? And the mother should have been called or something. (Personally I think that's bollocks, but I know a lot of teaching type staff feel like that).

Well i got one part of this triangle and she said 'are you sure it was me she told, i dont know anything.'