Engaged but scared to tell parents

[ButterflyE]

I think I'm engaged but not sure how to talk with my parents. I don't think they will approve. When I say "I think" I mean I've been asked, but to me parents blessing is important. I don't have that.

What makes you think they wouldn't approve? This would affect the advice you'll get e.g. if you come from a conservative religious background and your fiance does not, or he has done something that they would have difficulty getting past.

How old are you?

Your reaction makes me think a teenager?

He hasn't done anything wrong and I don't come from a religious background neither does he. They are happy for me to be in a relationship with him. I think they think I wouldn't be as happy as I think.

I'm in my 30's

Are you very young?

Sorry cross post! 30’s!

Think this is one of those things where the thought of it will be worse than the reality.

Your reaction seems a little odd for someone your age.
Do you live with your parents?

Just tell them. What are they going to do?

Yes, I live with them

They can't really do anything but I just want support from them

Ok, so it's not those two things. What is it that makes you think they will disapprove?

It would be quite unusual in your 30s for your parents to be unhappy about your engagement for no reason. I sort of get how you feel though, I'd feel quite shy about making a big announcement about my love life to my parents at any stage, but if they're ok with the relationship, maybe you're catastrophising a bit?

When I was mid twenties I was engaged, it took me ages to tell my mum and dad. Looking back, I didn't really want to marry him. We broke up before the wedding.

When dh and I got engaged, I could've happily shouted from the rooftops.

Big difference in my relationships.

Who gives a fuck. You are a grown adult. Why wouldn't they approve.

But you won’t know how they feel until you tell them?
Have they ever been abusive towards you? You are scared of them.

Ok. What if they disapprove?
Will you end your relationship and stay with your parents?

Maybe it doesn't matter if they approve because it's your life and about time you lived it.

@TabithaTittlemouse

But you won’t know how they feel until you tell them? Have they ever been abusive towards you? You are scared of them.

No! They have only ever been the best parents I could wish for. I'm just worried how the would take this. I'm not scared of them.