What do women want in a man?

[MyGlassKeepsLeaking]

As an older woman (62) I'm interested to know what young women today look for in a man - aside from physical attraction, what characteristics do you want in a relationship? What things would put you off a bloke?

Why do you think it’s any different from what you want/wanted in a man, assuming you were (or are) looking for one?

Kindness, loyalty, pratical

Selfishness, football or any sport obsessed, homophobic, needy, entitled, boring.

Kindness, caring nature and respect never goes out of fashion. I like to feel safe with my DP and I know he would put me first as I would with him.

I've been married for almost 42 years, so am not looking for a man!

Different things. I wouldn't like to assume for anyone else.

For me (I don't know if I count as young, but I'm one generation younger than you, OP) they must be kind and warm-hearted above anything else. They must have similar attitudes to me to work, money, children. Not be obsessed with any particular sport or hobby, or with their appearance. Looks wise - my default "type" has always been tall, dark and handsome, often blue-eyed but DH is tall, stocky and red haired. I don't mind about height though or colouring/race/hair colour. I like nice solid legs though, just have a thing about legs!

@MyGlassKeepsLeaking

I've been married for almost 42 years, so am not looking for a man!

Ok, but why do you think women now are looking for anything much different to what you were looking for 42 + years ago?

Someone who actively enhances my life: inspirational, joint financial security, positive mindset, encourages me to follow my dreams and goals, good habits and lifestyle so our life together is healthy and productive.

• obviously someone kind, funny and loyal too, but not every kind and funny man is of benefit to you apart from ‘because I love himmmmm’ -

If I am not improving from having them in my life- there really is no point to them as I’m fine by myself. I earn good money, have a great social life, lovely pets and lots of interests and hobbies. If I want sex, it’s easy to get.

There are so many women bending over backwards to be in relationships with men who do not add value to their lives that you’d have thought there was a penis shortage going on.

Kindness
Maturity
Financial responsible
Secure job
Willingness to be reflective/ learn
'Spark'
Good manners

Looks are not so important to me as those things.

Kind, caring, funny, polite, curious, empathetic, loyal, clean and tidy/ability to look after themselves (I.e does their own washing, cleaning, cooking etc) and would be a good dad. Luckily my bf is all of those things 😁

I'm interested for a reason - my nephew is divorced, has 2 boys (11 and 6), is a great dad, he works, is good-looking, nicely dressed, clean, and tidy. He cooks, cleans, irons, etc., but his girlfriend (he's been seeing her for a year, gets on great with her kids (12 and 9) keeps messing him about, saying she wants to be with him then she doesn't.

@MyGlassKeepsLeaking

I'm interested for a reason - my nephew is divorced, has 2 boys (11 and 6), is a great dad, he works, is good-looking, nicely dressed, clean, and tidy. He cooks, cleans, irons, etc., but his girlfriend (he's been seeing her for a year, gets on great with her kids (12 and 9) keeps messing him about, saying she wants to be with him then she doesn't.

Maybe she's the problem rather than your nephew then? Maybe he's just not the one for her and vice versa

A great work ethic
pulls his weight around the house
personal hygiene is very good
cares about what he looks like
relaxed personality
very good with money but not a tight arse at the same time
has no children with anyone else
reliable
chatty and approachable
can drive