Ok so I’ve hit an all time low! Some months ago, my stepson absolutely laid into me in front of my husband. He told me he hated me, told me his twin brother also hated me and said ‘you can imagine what mum thinks of her’. He is a very spoilt, arrogant, entitled 18 year old and lives with us. He continued to verbally abuse me for a further 25 minutes or so whilst all the while, my husband just sat there and let him. Not once did he I intervene.
For the next three months the son avoided me after which eventually he did apologise to me.
I felt utterly unsupported by my husband as he did nothing to protect me when all I had done was try to make effort with his son, spending personal time with him, taking him out etc.
We have been together for 10 years.
Also, in the past my husband has made decisions about our life and what we are doing based on his ex-wife kicking up a stink about something. I finally confronted him about this and said to him that I feel that I am here just to fulfil a brief. I’m here to facilitate his home life so that he can run his business, be his plus one when he needs one and obviously to perform in the bedroom as and when. I also said that he always takes the path of least resistance. He takes the route that is easiest for him regardless of what is the right and proper thing to do. Not once did he deny this in fact later that day he sent me a text message saying I was right about everything. I should have queried this at that point and asked him to clarify but I didn’t. instead I sunk to the new low.
After a week he asked me if he’d done something wrong, which was amazing in itself, as he is one of those people that tends to bury his head in the sand and pretended everything is okay, so I was quite surprised when he asked me. I then reiterated what I had said the previous week and that I felt that I was there just to fulfil a brief giving him ample opportunity to deny that is the case but he did not. I am so disillusioned. I have contacted a counsellor but haven’t yet booked an appointment as I feel it is a big step for me to take. I don’t know what to think as I now feel so low, I have very little self-esteem and my confidence levels have dropped to zero. What should I do?