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Friend's flirty husband

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nofaithinmen · 23/01/2022 21:50

Friends husband has always been flirty. I feel like it's clumsy, drunken, stupidity rather than actually cheating but I wouldn't know tbh

He has flirted when drunk with most of our group of friends. I get the feeling friend turns a blind eye and must know. I haven't brought it up cause I think she'd feel embarrassed

Anyway, the husband was randomly texting me last night but some of the texts were veering towards flirting and I shut it down once I realised.

It leaves me feeling ick, as I engaged in the texts in a friendly, "what's new with you" type way (for context it started with a relevant question to something day-to-day that had occurred recently, rather then completely out of the blue). I will never do the polite, friendly texting bit again because I think the messages were veering towards suggestive about 2 texts before I realised and now I feel awful about it

I feel like I want to confront the husband and say what the hell are you doing? But I don't know that it would change any of the behaviours, would probably just keep it away from me.

I don't want to talk to my friend about it as I just don't feel like that would result in anything productive. I genuinely think she'd prefer not to know, but I can't know that for sure. They're a really lovely couple who have a lot of fun together

Would you want to know if it were you? Do you think it's worth having a chat with the husband about it?
Or just leave well alone and try to avoid any stupid flirtiness in the future

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Santahasjoinedww · 23/01/2022 21:55

Why not suggest a group chat instead? The 3 of you will see him behave.

I lost a good friend once when her dh took it randomly upon himself to send me a dick pic for my birthday.. I backed away from being her friend also..blasted shame.

nofaithinmen · 23/01/2022 22:22

@Santahasjoinedww

Why not suggest a group chat instead? The 3 of you will see him behave.

I lost a good friend once when her dh took it randomly upon himself to send me a dick pic for my birthday.. I backed away from being her friend also..blasted shame.

I think that's what I'm most afraid of.

If she sees the messages and thinks I was in any way engaging in it and I end up the bad guy. Guess there's no way to avoid that really, if it happens it's out of my control really

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Onthefloor2 · 23/01/2022 22:26

You will be the bad guy! Don’t bother!

Theblacksheepandme · 23/01/2022 23:24

You will most definitely be the bad guy. I wouldn't say anything to her or him. She probably knows what his like and turns a blind eye. I would try not to engage in future texts with him either. Are you married or have a partner?

nofaithinmen · 25/01/2022 07:52

I don't currently have a partner. But previous "flirting" has happened when I did

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Theblacksheepandme · 25/01/2022 16:17

Previous flirting with this friends husband? If the answer is yes then stop. It is not nice to flirt back with your friends husband. He is completely disrespecting her by doing this. Her friends also will not be helping matters by flirting with this twat. She sounds like she would be better off without him and the friends that flirt with him. I don't care if there's drink involved as I never buy that excuse.

nofaithinmen · 25/01/2022 17:54

He starts flirting
Nobody is flirting back
About 98% of the time we all have nice friendly encounters together, but this flirty-ness rears it's ugly head every now and again
The "flirting" from his side has only ever started when really drunk (not that that is an excuse, just info pertaining to this account)
It can take a minute to recognise the switch between friendly chat to something more suggestive. As soon as this has registered it has been stopped

It would be weird to stop talking to him altogether, particularly in group situations.

Not texting back to normal questions would also be weird (though clearly best avoided at certain times when it's possible there is alcohol involved, so I will definitely be leaving responses until the following morning if I receive a "normal" text again)

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Branleuse · 25/01/2022 17:56

What form does all this flirting take?

nofaithinmen · 25/01/2022 18:02

Previously an inappropriate touch to the leg (when sitting) or a touch of the arm

In this instance the suggestion of meeting for a coffee but keeping it quiet

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OverByYer · 25/01/2022 18:03

I don’t text any of my friends husbands. Why do you need to text each other at all?

nofaithinmen · 25/01/2022 18:07

He sent me a text about something completely reasonable/normal, I responded

I don't make a habit of texting my friends husbands but if they reached out to ask me something I would respond. We have all asked each other for help before in the way a group of friends would help each other out/share information etc

Some friends husbands whose children I often look after will text me to make pick up arrangements etc...

So just normal stuff rather than a texting habit/relationship

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