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Is three night too long to go away w/o baby?

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Kif · 17/11/2004 08:04

Can i have a quick straw poll (say, until 12 today).

Dh and I tired, throught of going away for a break. MIL happy to take Dd (8 months). Confident in MIL competence. Baby knows them well - have been at least once a week, usually with me popping out for the day while they have her. Has lots of fun with cousins etc.

We've done an overnighter before, a couple of months ago. Two nights then. Went fine. First day better than second - baby didn't sleep so well 2nd night. Generally no problems - don't think they dressed her warm enough, but that is pretty much all my gripes.

Is 3 nights too long for baby? My mum has been grumbling that she'll be feeling abandoned. She thinks the reason baby was less settled 2nd night before was homesickness, and we should stick to one noght at a time. On the contra, everyone going away over Christmes, and it'll be just me and Dh for 6 weeks. Got a lot going on inc/. job interviews and stuff, and already pretty knackered and starting to 'drop the ball'. Thinking is that a good, deep rest is required to set us up. But not at baby's expense...

What shall i do? Want to go next week, so must book.

VOTE NOW!!!!!

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WideWebWitch · 17/11/2004 08:05

No it's not too long, she'll be absolutely fine. Go! Go! Go! Have a lovely time. We can only get childcare for 1 night and I'm deeply envious.

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Kif · 17/11/2004 08:13

It's fantastic having them. Unfortunately they're likely to be moving to France at Easter .

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aloha · 17/11/2004 08:35

I am sure she will be fine. I suspect your mum is secretly a bit jealous of the MIL getting to be with your dd, tbh, and this is colouring her remarks. I think the only problem might be that you might miss your baby! But it would be a lovely treat for you. We can ony get one night too, which barely seems worth it, so we haven't been away... it sounds lovely.

WigWamBam · 17/11/2004 08:45

I think you should go with what you feel, rather than what your mum says - I agree with Aloha that her remarks are probably prompted through jealousy of the time that your MIL will be spending with the baby. You've gone away without her before with no ill effects, so I can't see why you shouldn't go away again. I would love for someone to volunteer to take my dd for three days but unfortunately in 3.5 years no-one ever has! Go - and have a lovely time!

cellulitequeen · 17/11/2004 08:46

Definitely go for it. It's important to make time for you and DH and keep you both sane. We left DS with my mum for one night when he was 12 weeks old (although not hugely successful as was up all night expressing milk) and had 2 nights in posh hotel when he was a year old. It did us the world of good. DS was good as gold for my parents, they enjoyed having him and DH and I had a wonderful time. Book, book, book!!!

woodpops · 17/11/2004 08:48

She'll be fine. Is your mum just a bit miffed that you've not asked her to have your dd??

Moving to France at easter sounds fab. They'll have dd for holidays. Plus you'll be able to have cheap holidays in France.

hoxtonchick · 17/11/2004 08:49

i think 3 nights is fine. dp & i recently left our ds (2.9) with my parents for a week. he had an absolutely great time, though a week was too long for us. one thing, my parents came to us rather than him going to them (but they do live 200 miles away), but i think it made it a lot easier for ds being in his own home. go for it!

Tommy · 17/11/2004 08:55

I'm sure your DD will be fine. MIL will be knackered and you might miss the baby (that's what qwould happen here anyway) I wouldn't have gone for 3 nights at this stage but you have to do what's right for your family! (well - yu did say you wanted a vote

miranda2 · 17/11/2004 09:34

We've done 3 nights at 18 months and 2 nights at 2.5 years. Both times it was fine. We promised ourselves when pg that we'd have a weekend on our own each year. Last time we spent all the time thinking how much ds would enjoy Rome too.... but having a lie in etc was wonderful!

Frizbe · 17/11/2004 09:49

she'll be fine, have friends who won a hols for two and left baby for two weeks!!! baby was fine, in fact happier at Grans, much to mums disgust!

Angeliz · 17/11/2004 09:53

Kif, if you feel you and dp need it and dd will be looked after then don't worry and go+

You'll all have a much better Christmas for it.
Go and enjoy yourselves++++++++++++

SpringChicken · 17/11/2004 09:55

Very interested in results here - I am due to be going away for 3 days in March on SIL 2b's hen night and this is my one very big concern!

DD will be 8 months and will be staying with DP so not entirely the same but am still worrying - God only knows how he will cope!

bakedpotato · 17/11/2004 10:03

i don't think 3 nights is too long for the baby, don't believe at 8 months they brood much about abandonment/homesickness (and since your dd spends time there, she won't be unsettled) but it might be too long for your MIL -- unless she has stacks of stamina. 2 nights is our max. you get the lie-ins/pissups, but you're back before you start to miss them. but that's just us. your MIL sounds fantastic btw.

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Kif · 17/11/2004 19:41

Thanks for advice. We're now booked in and planning on having a lovely time. Funny suggestion re: my mum being jealous. Quite likely. She works six days a week, and is quite cheesed off with it all. This she'd love to sit at home and look after baby, if nto fo rwork.

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