Not havin a great day.....

[YoungMummyOf1]

Is it me or do guys expect to be treated like a god?

Ok... I split up with my ex 3 months ago. He moved out but has now moved back in because his mum died shortly after so i had to do the right thing and support him in every way i could... I also said his 18 year old brother could move in temporarily while he sorted himself out. Now my ex's brother is taking the mick out of me by expecting me to be there 24/7 ready to make him sumthin to eat if hes hungry, making a mess just after i have spent hours tidying up, talking to me like im dirt off the bottom of his shoe, waking my daughter up by stomping around and having the tv on so loud so late at night...

I know hes grienvin, and thats why i havent really said anything to him. But i dont know how much longer i can put up with being treated like this. How do i deal with an 18 year old whos acting like this?

Im only 19 myself so im finding it extremely hard looking after my daughter and an 18 year old too.. I know how my mum felt now when i was livng at home!! lol

Chuck him out - if he doesn't have any respect for you, then he should not be allowed to stay.

Why should you put up with that kind of shit in your own home? And more importantly why should your DD see you skivvy after someone who treats you so badly.

What does your ex make of all this - surely he should have stood up for you and told his brother he is way out of order!

he wont say anything because hes scared of upsetting him especially after his mum died.

He has nowhere to go. Im at a loss.. I dont know what to do

Grieving and showing you a bit of respect are not mutually exclusive, and if your ex won't tell him you have every right to.

Becoming the doormat they wipe their shoes on is not 'doing the right thing', you are being wonderfully supportive to them both but letting them treat you and your home like dirt will not assuage their grief in any way. You sound very mature for 19, and your ex is lucky to have you.

echo turquoise -- it's not right.. it's neither reason nor excuse for such consistently selfish behaviour.

Thank you Turquise.. It means a lot

I think its time to put my foot down and make him understand whos roof he is living under and to respect me for putting up with him. Im just scared things will get worse if i do say something.

Hi Youngmummy, I have seen a few threads by you today - you are having a rough time with these 2 and looking after your DD so well. Is it worth letting it go until the New Year then make them sit down with you and tell them BOTH how you feel. Possibly seperately so they don't gang up on you!

Try and have a peacful Christmas for you and your DD then hit them with both barrels - shape up or Ship out! You have DD to think about and she is your priority not 2 grown Men.

Try to have a great Christmas and enjoy your DD, mine is 15m and we are so looking forward to it

Thats what im going to do. I dont want to ruin anyones christmas or new year so im going to have to be patient.

Thanks, i hope you have a wonderful christmas too