My step son has been physically threatened by another mum in the playground

[valleygirl]

I just wanted to share this with people out there as it has outraged and scared the living daylights out of me.
the story is this:
there is a little girl (Year 1) in my stepson's school (he's in Year 2), who has been flashing her knickers in the playground and encouraging the boys to encourage her further. My step-son has been one of these boys who have gotten carried away with this and have behaved inapropraitely by saying things like "show us your sex-thing" to the little girl.
Anyway it seems that the little girl has gone home and told her mum one side of the situation so my step-son was issued with a warning (rightly so).
However things have gotten totally out of hand and this mother has been threatening to kill my step-son, has followed his mum and her 2 boys after school, threatening to kill her too.
After speaking to other mums in the playground the knicker-flashing and provocative behaviour of this 6 year old girl has come to light and now that the headmaster is better informed he is taking things a lot more seriously.
The psycho-mum has been banned from the school playground and is not allowed inside the school wihout a prior appointment, but in the meantime the police are refusing to do anything, my step-son is terrified, she is still tailing them after they leave the school gates and on Friday morning I am taking the kids to school after they stay over, and quite frankly i'm more than a little nervous.
Anyone EVER heard of anythign so revolting? And any suggestions how to resolve this and is it right that the police cannotmintevene and issue her with a warning of some sorts to keep her distance?

I can understand her being protective of her daughter but it sounds like she's going way over the top.
The police can't do much about threats unfortunately but if they won't help what about social services. I seems as if the school recognise that she's potentially dangerous so they would probably back you up in any complaint.
Good luck. What a horrible situation.

How awful valleygirl

I'm not a legal expert at all, hopefully someone else will be able to advise, but didn't the anti-stalking laws that came in a few years ago come in to cover this sort of thing?

Oh, that's horrible. Could you and they log with the police every incidence of the threats and if she starts verbally abusing him, ring 999 (at least it will be recorded..). What are the stalking laws in the UK? Could you get the Head to back you up?

At the very least, let her know that you and his mom are keeping in touch with the police. Keep a notebook just for that, record everything she says and does that's menancing.

valleygirl - This sounds terrible. Keep an A4 notepad handy and write down everything that has happened so far. Use it as a diary to record all that is said and done by anyone concerned. Take a camera/video camera when you are out and record her following your step-son if you possibly can. Speak to the Citizens Advice Bureau. Consider consulting a solicitor. Sorry this is rushed, I must go. Good luck.

Absolutely terrible. If she follows you after you drop off the kids, drive to a police station and make a complaint. It can only help if a file is built up about her appalling behaviour.

What a disgusting mother. Your poor step son. I can't believe the police won't do anything even though she's scaring the living daylights out of kids.

the police have told his mum to make a record of every threat - his mum doesn't spook easily, so this woman must be pretty bad. i have told that she and I should go together on Friday morning - firstly so that she can point her out to me so I know who to look out for, but also to be a wittness if she tries anything. I'm also picking the boys up from school on Friday too, so I ant to know what I;m potentially dealing with.
I think contacting scoial services might be a good idea, but because the school cannot release any names or addresses (apparantly) not sure what good this woudl do.
What kind of example is this mother setting her daugheter, and aslo why is a 6 year old girl routinely goign around flashing herself in the playground.
My step son will be gettign a talkign to from me about his actions, but i think the fact that he is terrified has been a lesson in itself.

Oh Valleygirl. What a nightmare. So sorry your step-son and family are having such a hard time and feel for the little girl too.

Wrt Monday- I would arrive as close to the start of school as possible- don't be early and don't worry if you are slightly late even. It sounds like you would be wise to avoid any "unstructured" time hanging around the school gates waiting to go in.

I agree that your step-son's mum should call the police at every instance of being followed or threatened, even if they seem unwilling to act. At the least it provides a clear message to this other mother that she will not just accept such intimidation. I assume that your stepson has already been told to keep well away from this kid as far as possible from now on too? Usually hate that kind of ultimatum but I think it's necessary in this instance. Do hope things improve from here on in.

Sorry- I mean Friday, not Monday.

yes my step-son has been told to keep well away from the little girl and has been told that if she approaches him to go and actually tell a teacher.
the worst thing is that this psycho-woman has been slagging off dss's mum to a lot of other parents to the extent that a lot of the mums are actually blanking her. so her poison is working in more than one way.

for all of you involved in this (apart from psycho mum). Apparently the police dont like to act too quickly in some cases expecting it to "blow over". On Friday last week one of my sisters customers threatened to kill my BIL and called him a "useless greyhaired fucking c*nt" made his fingers into a "gun" and "shot him in the temple telling him he was dead. This was followed by a phone call to the showroom to inform my sister he knows where they live and then gave her their address to prove he knows, dates of birth and loads of other personal info. - All this because the radiator he bought from them 2 years ago has started leaking but he had his own plumber fit it. The Police logged it but wont follow it up with visit/statement taking.

Does psycho mum realise what her dd has been doing?

I would be seriously thinking about getting an injunction if that were me. What a freak!