Has anyone recently moved house?

[jackieboo]

Hi, I'm asking as we moved just over 3 weeks ago and I think the excitement and hurry is over and now am feeling really down. I've wanted to move for about 7 years and have moved to a lovely house in a newish development. As we are finding things that need doing or replacing it's taking the 'newness' away and am possibly obsessig over things? ~(i.e. new boiler and taps needed).

I have my hub who's 54, son home from Uni who is 23 and daughter of 14 at home, my middle son, 21, shares a house in East London and see him quite a bit.

Menopause tests negative - bit anaemic - very tired - just turned 50 - Dad gravely ill in hospital - motherin law has dementia - hub had to have new hip this year - could it be a combination of all these things I wonder hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm? hmm

Oh it sounds like a combination of buyer's remorse and a lot on your plate atm. It's normal to feel a bit down - could you start doing something you really enjoy with some new people, like badminton or a book club?

Hi Jackieboo - We moved in the summer and I think can identify with some of how you feel - however perfect it seems on viewing (although we knew exactly what we were taking on!) it doesn't really seem yours when the vans have gone - also I found that although I only moved about 7 miles (to stop driving this each day for the schools) I feel that I don't know anyone or anything. Our neighbours did a small drinks party one Sunday lunchtime for us which was fantastic -although we are all hidden behind big walls, live very differing lives and don't really know each other (and some of them have been there for 40 years) we do know names and faces etc and they are all very nice people - which is for me just perfect- perhaps you could do the same for your new neighbours in the new year? Also in terms of things that you need (or want) to do - I would make a list and give yourself a sensible timescale - particularly with all you are have on your plate - but for me a list and a schedule makes it seem workable iyswim. I hope you enjoy your first christmas in your new home.

Thanks. Maybe I'm just feeling a bit cut off although we moved only half a mile away from our old house!

Remember moving is one of the most stressful periods anyway, let alone witht the other thinsg you have going on. We moved earleir this year and even thgouh hosue is only 14 years old it seems to have lots of niggles - our taps need replacing but they were specialist brass ones and can't find anything to match the rest, kitchen extractor hood broke down and now the cover doesn't fit properly et al, all frustrating. We tried to have some jobs done already otherwise we know, form the last house, if you leave it longer than 6 months it never gets done as you simply learn to live with it. It took us a while to feel settled and maybe Christmas will be a watershed for you if the kids come to visit and you can switch off for a bit. Do hope you have a nice first Christmas in your new home.