I have been told many time by a family member that I should look at booking cheap flight and going away for the weekend when ex husband has the kids. She keeps going on and on about it which is really getting on my nerves. She said if she was in my position she will do that. What bullshit, I don't want to travel on my own to a foreign country just because I don't have the kids, if she was coming with me why not but it is not the case. She never offered to do it with me, she doesn't work, has no money worry, no kids but always try to dictate what I should be doing or shouldn't be doing. She even told me that if she and her husband separate, she will be ok her own, sad but ok. For her it shouldn't take so long to be over a marriage breakup. She means well but I come to dread each time I see her now. I feel such a failure.