I WANT TO THUMP SOMEONE OR SOMETHING FOR NO GOOD REASON!

[CliffRichardSucksEggsinHell]

I'm feeling knackered and fed up and pissed off and angry!

Last weekend we rushed about visiting people, seeing my two sisters, our friend before he had his eye op, dh's parents, our friends who are due to sprog on Boxing Day etc.
Monday was dd's dress rehearsal at school, then I had ds's presents to wrap, lunches to make, cards to write. Today was ds's birthday, did full day at school then rushed home, collected dd from after school club, found dh at home playing his mandolin and doing very little else, watched ds open his presents, baked a cake for him whilst making tea, vacuumed and made lunches for tomorrow.
Weds I am working an hour's overtime, dd has a party at her French club after school and then her school play at 7pm, I've asked dh if it's not too much trouble for him to make the bloody tea for a change!
Thurs ds is having a birthday tea party. Hopefully I can fit in a bit of shopping before work and then his party at 4pm.
Friday I've managed to get a bit of time out of work to see ds's school play.

I've done no Christmas shopping and it's now too late to order anything online. I'm fed up of listening to other peoples problems and making time for other people then leaving myself short of time and having no-one to listen to ME! I'm tired, I feel under pressure, I feel rushed. I'm fed up of organising everything and I want dh to take more responsibility, but he just says that I worry too much and other people aren't bothered about how the house looks or what presents they get. No, but I'M BOTHERED! And he either helps or I'll cut his fecking balls off and shove them up his nose!

Gah! Feels a bit better.

No there are plenty of good reasons to kill within that post.

I'm off alcohol for this week which isn't helping. I drank too much last weekend, even when I didn't feel like it, just because I felt I should. Then I had gut rot so have decided to ease back a bit.

So I've withdrawal symptoms into the bargain! (My hands were actually shaking on Sunday)

First of all, happy birthday DS !

As for the rest of it, gawd what a whirl you have been in

No suggestions apart from perhaps a spot of list-making followed by delegating tasks in writing to DH might prod into action

And

Feel free to ignore

His mum is more of a mother to me than my own. Every year I ask him to get her something decent but he doesn't, says that they are not bothered about presents, but that just puts pressure on me to shop for her. Same for the kids, when I did leave it to him one year, he bought a balloon kit as dd's present and some garage chocs for his mum.

So either I do it or they get naff pressies.

whoa yeah

I have a list as long as my feckin arm too

and I have YET ANOTHER COLD!

Thank you. I've got a cold coming too OliveOil.

Everything is just rushed all the time. He got home early today and he didn't bother to tidy the house, pick dd up from school or start on tea. I'm so annoyed with him!

I need help from him but he just says that the house doesn't need tidying and that he'll do tea if I tell him what to do. Well NO! Let him worry about what to do for a change! He's doing the bloody tea tomorrow and if he fails to get anything out of the freezer that's his problem!

Organising all the kids activities and trying to fit them in with each other and work is a logistical nightmare. I've also had to join this Secret Santa crap at work so I have to buy some girl I hardly know, a present for a tenner.
Asda vouchers?

Boots box of crap, she can take it back if she doesn't want it. And frankly, do you give a shitty shite? NO!

I think what it boils down to is you having to think of everything. I want someone else to remember what is for dinner, that we need bread, we need grey arms and legs for the donkey costume (!) etc etc etc

Lists. That is my only advice. Cross it off, move on.

Good idea - lists. Yes.

Can you do one for me please?

The solution seems obvious to me but don't know if it is possible?

On saturday HE looks after the kids and house while you do the xmas shopping then when you get back you put your feet up while he wraps them all, seems fair?

Everytime you get off your arse to do something when he is there you say im going to do [insert something you know he hates doing] would you mind doing [something you know he doesnt mind doing] that way more gets done and you physically do less.

Or kick him in the balls but then you really are screwed because he won't help you at all then because he will be in a mood and have a reason to moan about not helping etc.

Thank you.

Ok, I shall make a list and on Sat dd has a party to go to, he can take her and do some bonding with ds whilst I go shopping.

He'll moan that this gives him no time to do his, but I can offer him a Sunday shop in Tesco's

And instead of expecting him to do things for me, I'll simply demand that he do them. I might even give him a list of his very own.

Right now he's just pissing about with some old Christmas lights that are not working, whilst ignoring the scattered toys. Well I ain't tidying up!

Oooooh, he either gives me Sat shopping or he does the birthday tea for ds!

I need a good shag with George Clooney.

agree

tell him he has the children, you go shopping

can you go late night shopping? or are you in the sticks and only have a Spar?

lists - write down what you have to do in order of importance

make line half way down the list

ignore bottome half, do top half

(I read this somewhere and thought, ooooh I like that, good idea)

Right, have done two lists, one of activities this coming week and next week that I have to remember and organise. Another general list of things we need to do, such as sort out how to divide Christmas between our 2 families. I've given them both to dh and asked him to help out where he can.

Yes thank you OliveOil we do have modern supermarkets up here thankyouverymuch! Huh! But I didn't want to get people supermarket presents, not ones that I cared about anyhow. I'll shop in Carlisle on Sat and whittle down a list of those important to me who deserve a half decent pressie, then compete with hundreds of shoppers to find summat!

Thanks guys, made me feel calmer now, dh's balls are safe once more ...... for the time being.

Oi, OO I live in the sticks and have to make do with Spar

It's no fun.

Rhubs Cliff glad you have some order imposed

you go girl

Make a list of presents before you go shopping - who for, what and how much

work out where to get the all - one shop best

go in, elbow everyone out of the way, buy

don't spend 1 hour on the internet (like I have just done) when you could be doing Christmas cards or something equally productive

Yes but Dom Joly is being serious on the telly and giving lectures on drunk drivers. I can't watch that and Mumsnet and write Christmas cards!