Unkind things a loved one has said to you

[Samedaysame]

Following on from threads a stranger has been unkind. What is the worst thing a loved one has said to you. Mine I met a new man and we both fell head over heals declaring undying love and a proposal which I accepted. My son was away at uni, he came home for the weekend and met new partner. My new partner said about my son' your ex husband must he a very good looking man because your son is very handsome ' wtf

My new partner said about my son' your ex husband must he a very good looking man because your son is very handsome

I think he was trying to be nice! Good looks on both sides? Who does your son look like the most?

Eh? How is that unkind? Was it sarcasm?

My ‘D’H is absolutely awful when we argue. TBF, I give it back. I wouldn’t dare repeat some of the awful things we’ve said to each other in the heat of an argument.

For context we both work-at the time I was part time on min wage and he was full time on a lot more money so we’ve always done it as I pay for food and bits for the house-he pays everything else (it works for us)

Anyway his daughter (aged 18) came to live with us and just point blank refused to get a job-and was very good at playing mum off against dad-and mum is one of those who loves to score points and cause trouble

She came very close to breaking us up at the time

We where rowing one night and he screamed ‘I pay the fucking rent!’

He will never know how much that hurt as I really couldn’t get more hours at work and I was trying so hard to pay my way-it’s not like I sat at home watching tv all day while he worked every hour god sent

To make it worse she was sat at the top of the stairs,live streaming all this to her mother who spent months phoning us and screaming ‘get her out! (me) she doesn’t pay the f*cking rent!’

His daughter moved out and back to her mother within the week-it was her or me

Oddly,we’ve not rowed since she stomped out and we are stronger than ever

He’ll just never know how much that one comment hurt

Blimey, if that’s the worse thing a “loved one” has ever said to you, you’re doing well. Sounds like a compliment to me.

I could be here all night listing mine.

You’re lazy, selfish, stupid and ignorant- my parents, repeatedly, for as long as I can remember.
It’s not as bad as you’ve made out - parents again, visiting me in hospital after ex put me there.
Serves you bloody right - parents yet again, as above
I’m going to make your life hell - ex no1
You’ve got no friends and no wonder - ex no 2 when he’d successfully seen off all my friends
Cry then, you’ll piss less- same ex, constantly
I’m only marrying you for tax reasons, I’m still in love with my ex - same ex
She’s stunning, you’re ordinary and need to lose weight - ex no 3 when I found out he was cheating on me, I can sure pick ‘em!

Oh, and my personal favourite, stop whinging - my sister when I told her ex was beating and raping me.

When I was married my then h said to me a few weeks after I told him it was over due to him abusing me and the kids.

Cant you hang on a few more years until your parents have died?

My dad told me I was dead to him and as far as he was concerned him no mum only had 1 daughter.

My sister told me I was a shit parent for setting and sticking to boundaries with my dd, oh and neglectful because I worked full time and she went to a childminder. Sister doesn't work, married well and still sent her kids to nursery so she could have "me" time. Apparently she doesn't understand irony.

My exh told me that I would die alone because no one but him would ever put up with me.

I wouldn't cope on my own, financially.
From a relative who is career driven.
It hurt, because I know I can be independent if I ended up alone. You don't have to be career driven to be independent. I don't know why my family look at life like that.

My ex told me he had cheated on me because I was too precious over my body after I'd given birth and our neighbour was apparently more fun. Four days after I gave birth and almost died from PPH and had nearly fifty vaginal stitches he was pestering me for sex. While I was trying to get a baby latched on to my sore boobs and sobbing, he was telling me he was going to pounce on me "as soon as that baby goes to sleep."

Day six

Day six was the day he cheated on me.

Not really a loved one as I hate him, but step dad. I was home visiting mum at the same time as my brother visiting from abroad. Mum wanted a photo of the 3 of us. She asked step dad to take it saying no need for legs, just the top half is fine. Step dad turned to me and said 'you've not got nice legs so she doesn't want them in the photo'. It's no surprise I have such body issues. Bastard

I hope it fails, my DH to me during our 1st round of IVF, the subsequent 3 other rounds railed too.

My 'D'H during an awful row..."how do you expect anyone else to care for you when you don't even care about yourself!" He knew I was gutted I'd gained back all the weight I'd lost (back to a size 14, not that it matters),and used it against me to hurt me during a fight. I'll never forget it.

Of aunt who brought me up “look at those fat thighs fat bum you’ll amount to nothing”