It bugs me that dh does not like xmas

[feezy]

I know alot of people feel the same but when you have 4kids I think perhaps you should try to make an effort for them.
I know he teases me alot of the time because he knows it winds me up .He just hates the whole concept : we are not religious, he hates spending money , and just all the usual family pressures that come with it.
But I like to think of it as a special time : love decorating the tree with the kids , writing cards , going to all school plays etc etc.
Last night I said to him I had just given up and wasn't going to mention the C word anymore and just get on with it with the kids.
Obviously its weeks too early but I just wish he'd get festive for once.

Oh feezy - how annoying! Did he not enjoy his own childhood Xmas's? Has something happened to turn him against it or is he just generally 'bah humbug'??

There is a lot of family pressure and the financial aspect is not great, but like you say, it's fab for the kids - for me it's all about the kids and I'm so glad I've now got 3 of my own so I can relieve all the magic

His parents are both heavy drinkers and Iam certain they did not spend time with him writing cards , playing games etc and making it a special time.
However he is just generally 'bah humbug'

ok at the risk of being lynched....I don't like christmas either.....far too many bad memories for me I'm afraid...my mum grounded and beat me on xmas day one year cos I wouldn't do the dishes...one year we moved house on xmas eve...had no presents, tree or turkey the next day, and I just had mum shouting at me all day....but at the same time it makes me more adament that my kids will enjoy xmas. It is hard for me and DH gets far more excited about it than I do....but then he is a bigger kid at heart...I have had to grow up far too quickly.

Mines just the same Feezy and it makes me soooo mad!! You would think they could at least pretend to be excited to get the kids excited about it! He's not into cards, he hates buying the presents - he just hates it all!! He's so like eboneezer scrooge you wouldnt believe it!! However I'm not letting him get away with it - dd is 3 (on xmas day!!) And he is going to spend a whole evening putting up the tree with her and getting her excited about santa - or there's going to be trouble!!

You must have very sad memories titania. I know people feel forced to be happy and to give the impression they will ahve a great xmas etc etc. I know it we didn't have kids we'd probably go away and I'd be happy with that but we have 4 who are revving up to full throttle by 17th dec when they finish school

My dh hates christmas too.
He was one of eight children so never had much as a child plus his parents have never showed him any love. He says its just for the kids and likes seeing them happy on the day but he never feels "festive"
I, on the other hand, always had brilliant christmasses. I am one of six kids and both my parents loved christmas too, so we had a really festive house which I loved

My Dh is the same too but then I think thats down to his upbringing as well as the fact that he "doesnt like to be told when to celebrate" (he says the same thing about Valentines day, Easter etc). I feel so lucky that I have very happy memories of Christmas in large family. I do have a suspision that there is also a hint of "if I moan about how I hate Christmas so much maybe Ill get let off doing all the crap stuff like card writing and shopping etc" in the moaning men do at about Christmas IYSWIM.

OMG! im not alone with my dislike of Christmas, thankyou all for this post!
Well, when i say i dislike it what i mean is i disliked it for years and years. For me it held bad bad memories and so i could not muster any happiness through the month of December at all. I used to actually VOLUNTEER to work the whole lot to avoid it.
Now i have DS and every thing is so so different and better. This will be his second Christmas and we are very excited about it.
Its not just the memories though it was the stress of the financial outlay, the time buying gifts, the rugby scrum of every man and his dog hitting the shops pushing and queing, just awful.
I made a concious decision when DS was born that i would shop in sales through out the year for Christmas and that is what i have done. Today i have a couple of things to get then me and DH can sit down nearer the time an wrap every thing. Im stress free and cant wait to see my little mans face on Christmas day.......God bless us all!!!!!vomit vomit vomit!

Bah Humbug from me too - sorry Feezy!

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