Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Flexible and made to last.

Meet the Other Phone.
Flexible and made to last.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
Other subjects
Original poster

would you tell anyone if you won the lottery ?

31 replies

JinglyJangly · 28/11/2007 13:39

I wouldn't. I wouldn't even tell my DH because he is the breadwinner, I am a SAHM with no money other than my DH's.

I would love to put money away just incase we ever split so that me and the kids wouldn't end up penniless, especially as they have become accustomed to a nice lifestyle.

I wouldn't even tell my parents.

Would you tell anyone? Do you think I am being mean not to tell anyone?

OP posts:
bossykate · 28/11/2007 13:42

sorry, but i am laughing and laughing! why on earth are you worrying about this? why would anyone possibly think you were mean not to tell anyone - there's nothing to tell.... is there?

bossykate · 28/11/2007 13:43

seriously, are you worried about your marriage? would you like to end your marriage but don't feel you can afford to?

those are issues worth thinking about.

bossykate · 28/11/2007 13:44

i would be pretty cagey though i think if i were to win - which is especially unlikely in my case as i don't buy tickets.

themoon66 · 28/11/2007 13:45

No I wouldn't tell anyone. I'd seriously take the piss at work and see how far I could push my luck before they sacked me

flowerybeanbag · 28/11/2007 13:45

I would find it difficult to hide a speedboat in my wardrobe.

Original poster
JinglyJangly · 28/11/2007 13:46

Yeah I suppose it'll be a dead giveaway when I go from a 3 bed semi to a mansion in the space of a week .

OP posts:
TellusMater · 28/11/2007 13:48

Gosh. I think I agree with BK. If you wouldn't spend your winnings on your family unless you and your DH split up...

If I won a bundle (which is not going to happen 'cos I don't play either), then I would have to tell some people because I would be giving a reasonable sum to my brother and sister to start with, and they might wonder where it came from.

lilolilmanchester · 28/11/2007 13:51

was just going to write what themoon66 said. Wouldn't that be ace?! Tho knowing my luck I'd still make it to retirement!

oliveoil · 28/11/2007 13:51

I would tell my family and friends

then run off somewhere hot

MrsArchieTheInventor · 28/11/2007 13:53

I would tell dp and no one else, to start with at least. The way I figure it's easier to keep it to yourself than retract it if you later regret telling people.

Niecie · 28/11/2007 13:54

Depends on how big the win was. I reckon me and DH would easily 'hide' £100k, maybe even £250k but not millions.

I would tell close family but that is about it.

juicychops · 28/11/2007 14:19

if i won 100k+ i would tell no one until it was actually cleared in my bank account.

Then i would tell dp and immediate family. Thats about it

OrmIrian · 28/11/2007 14:21

Depends on the amount. Anything over a million I think people might notice a few changes . Anyway I have made many plans over the years as to who would get some money if I ever had a windfall so they'd all need to know.

Original poster
JinglyJangly · 28/11/2007 14:24

juicy - then you would have to give them a cut of it. 100k aint much is it? if it were millions then fair enough.

OP posts:
juicychops · 28/11/2007 14:33

if i won 100k i would share out a (small) amount to my dp, mum, sis and dad but no, 100k is not a lot these days. Still couldn't even buy a house for that much!!

SpeccieSeccie · 28/11/2007 14:36

I wouldn't want to tell anyone as the 'If I were you I'd put my money in... blah, blah' conversations would bug me. But I did read that someone had studied winners and those that came clean were happier than those who were hiding it.

fedupwasherwoman · 28/11/2007 14:37

I can see your logic Jingly Jangly but if your dh is the sole breadwinner and you are a SAHM then I think all money is joint or family money including the money that paid for the lottery ticket and hence the winnings are joint or family money too.

HOWEVER, if the marriage is weak and your dh does not value your contribution as a SAHM then the opportunity to put a little away for a rainy day would be tempting. It would presumably give you great peace of mind and sometimes that's priceless.

At the moment, I wouldn't tell my dh if I won the lottery, I'm just hoping that things will eventually improve maritally to the point where he'd be happy for all of us and not start expecting to be in complete control of deciding what "we" were going to do with "our" windfall.

juicychops · 28/11/2007 14:40

im gunna do the lottery for tonight now!!

mellowma · 28/11/2007 14:41

Message withdrawn

mellowma · 28/11/2007 14:43

Message withdrawn

OrmIrian · 28/11/2007 14:44

"I wouldn't want to tell anyone as the 'If I were you I'd put my money in... blah, blah' conversations would bug me"

I sympathise with that! We got compensation for our poorly performing endowment a few years back and when I went to pay the cheque in to the bank a suit came shooting out of the back office like his ar*e was on fire to advise me. Without any request from me

handlemecarefully · 28/11/2007 14:49

I wouldn't. God knows we have to downplay and avoid any reference, even oblique ones (don't tell people where we stay on holiday, what restaurants we eat at etc) to what we have now (because people get so envious/ bitter / judgemental),and that is not in the same league as a major 'millions' lottery win

pyjamagirl · 28/11/2007 14:50

I spend nights thinking about what I'm going to buy when if I ever win, it's a sad little fantasy for me.
I also think about the looks on my ex friends faces (who treat me like shit when I was having a really bad time ) when they unwrap their gorgeous green gift from me with a gifttag attached saying "to match the colour of your faces"
OMG must stop telling everyone my lottery based fantasys .

Serously though I would tell my family

SpeccieSeccie · 28/11/2007 14:51

Oooh, very annoying, OrmIrian, that is exactly what I mean. EVERYONE is gonna reckon they'd spend it better than you.

handlemecarefully · 28/11/2007 14:52

And EVERYONE is inwardly going to be resentful and jealous