Going away without DS for the first time this weekend - please reassure me!

[snowleopard]

Wasn't sure where to post this - we need a "worried" topic!

I have to go away for work, and will be away Friday night - leaving after bedtime - to (I hope) sunday night, but it could be Monday morning depending on if things run over... I will be about 200 miles away from home and I'm really dreading it. We decided it was better for DS and DP to stay at home as I will be so busy they'd hardly see me anyway, and it's better for DS to have all his usually routines and familiar surroundings than be in a hotel. He's 2.5 and it's the first time I will have been away from him overnight.

DP is great, very loving and patient and hands-on - I know I shouldn't worry that he doesn't know every last little detail of what to do, DS's needs etc - but I do! DS is a bit clingy with me and I'm afraid he'l be very upset when he can't find me (though we are telling him all about it and preparing him). Also just terrified in case there's any kind of emergency while I'm far away, or that something bad might happen to me etc etc - I know I should stop worrying but I don't know how. Also that I will miss DS so much that I won't be able to concentrate on what I'm doing - which involves making public apparances and being filmed

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hi snowleopard, i left my LO with his grandparents for the first time a few weeks ago to go away for the night with dh and i was also v worried but tbh i don't think he hardly noticed! However, he was only 11mo then so i guess your LO is a bit more aware etc.. i reckon my ds didn't really notice because he was having soooo much fun with his gp's - can your dh do anything especially out of the ordinary for your LO to take his mind off your absence? Or would that make matters worse?!
Its easy to say but maybe just try and enjoy your freedom for a night?! That sounds really blase but i was amazed at how liberated i felt just staying in a different place to my ds! Hope it goes ok anyway, all the best + {{reassuring hug}}}

It is difficult the first few times.
But they will have fun, and the time will fly for them.
When my DCs were tiny, I tried hard not to keep phoning to see how they were, and definitely not at bedtime, as that kicked everything off.
I hope your trip goes well.

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or re mortgaging the house and sneaking off down the dog track.

I know, I know, loads of people leave them at a much younger age. And I know it will be good for them to be together (and cod you're right about everything except the sport - it will be MTV2)

Good advice about not phoning.

Yes I am farking terrified about the stuff I have to do while away - not a course so much, tis a meet-up where me and my colleagues will have to be on show and I need to hold my end up IYSWIM.

I do take the point about having a good time. My colleagues are so posh, they have asked for us to be booked into an extra-specially posh hotel (not the bogstandard one that most delegates will be at!) so it will be super-luxurious and I do plan to enjoy that.

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I do a bit .

You are right cod, this has really helped.

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No not that. I know it will be a tinned tomato soup, alphabetti and ice cream kinda weekend but I haven't mentioned it or done anything about it.

You will worry you know. You won't be able to help yourself. Get dh to get him to send you txt on your phone. Leave t-shirt of yours with your perfume on for him. Take something small of his with you ( I used to do that ).... and know this... you WILL be ok and it WILL do you a world of good to be reminded that you are more than just mum....

Thanks for the tips ff!