even though she used to phone me twice a day for an hour each time...and i practically became her counsellor to the point where it began to ruin my life...she sapped the life force out of me with her needs....some of them very selfish indeed, i put up with it for years but then found the courage to break away from it all and devote time to my own family.....i feel soo much better now but guess what? she has'nt got time for me now! parp!