i would love my Niece (2.7 yrs old) sleep over at my house with my DD (3.1yrs old) BUT

[biglips]

she is so clingy to her mum! As always

How do i go about that or do i wait till she is abit older??

My Niece and my DD are really close.

Advices anyone pls??

i'd wait... you know it would be difficult, and you don;t want two upset, crying toddlers keeping you up all night, or having to get your sister to come and get your niece.

Could your sister stay too?

It sounds as if you're the one who wants her to sleep over, not your niece! A 2y7 month old clingy child is utterly normal - you sound surprised? My 2y10m old would not 'enjoy' a sleep over at this age, although she does occasionally stay with my parents/pil if my dh and I want a night away. Perhaps you could offer to babysit, but if your niece or her mum are not keen I wouldn't push it.

My dd is 11 and still has to nerve herself up for sleepovers even with best friends/family. She was 10 before she managed to do it al all.

Ds has beed sleeping over with all and sundry since her was 2.

Some can, some can't. Don't push it!
Could your dd sleep over there instead?

Wean her into it.
Little bit at a time.
An hour, then two and so on.

Until your at a point where she has fallen asleep, maybe be prepared to get her back to her mum in the middle of the night.

Youll probobly find, that after the initial seperation from her mum, she will settle.

Also, maybe your dd could stay over at hers first.

yes thats right i want her to sleep over here..is that a problem? and its my brothers ex-girlfriend who is the mum. Yes i do know that 2.7yrs old is clingy which is normal and my DD is not a clingy child at all. Supposed thats a good idea to babysits or get both of them to stay here.

well i think it would be cheeky if i ask the mum if my DD could sleep over at hers instead

OR do u all think this is too young to do?

too young imo.

If she's clingy during the day then chances are that at night when children feel the need to feel most secure it would be 10 times worse.

It's not something you can force, sleepovers should happen because it's what the children want.

Not too young imo.

But wouldnt push her, wean her into the idea.

It will benefit you and her mother, you can both get a night out/off!

Im all for it, my 2 dds have always had sleepovers here and at friends houses, since about age 2. Seems to be more held at my house than them going elsewhere tho

ok...ill leave it when they are abit older and offer to babysit instead

thanks everyone

too young. my ds is 3.5 and there is no way he would be ready to sleep at my sisters house! I have to say, it sounds like you have some underlying issues with your brothers ex. sorry if this is inaccurate, but you would definitely think my boys were too clingy!

ive got some underlying issues with my bro's ex???? er....what exactly??

think it was the 'she is so clingy to her mum! As always' made me think this. sorry if im wide of the mark

Does the nieces mum want to encourage a sleepover like this, or is it just you and your dd?

oh no! ....she is clingy with her mum to anyone!...not just me!....me and her mum meet up once a month sometimes twice a month with the kids (she is coming over today). She is the lovelest, kind person you could ever meet but it didnt work out between her and my bro. (they werent seeing each other long before she fell pg)

no..ive never mentioned it to the mum as i just thought of it this morning as i was thinking around Xmas time or maybe her mum can stay as ive got no problem with that at all

it takes my Niece about half an hour to warm up to play ...she is just shy...not like my DD...as she hadnt got a single shy bone on her body!

sorry biglips i must be grumpy on the lookout for conflict this am! maybe just work up to it but sounds like she might not be ready yet.

...no worries as you took me by surprise.. sometimes im like that too

Get her mum to stay too - then you can put the firls to bed and have a wine and takeaway evening