Feminist dilemma about surnames

[Prunie]

I am really quite militant (for myself) about not having changed my name on getting married. I've had to insist on my own surname several times.
I want to set up in business - and my name will be a big part of it. Now, my surname is boring, and very common. DH's is a bit exotic and different but hard to spell.
Do I - with his permission - use his name? Or at least double barrel? Are 'different' names more memorable?
Is this a total cop-out and a bit stinky, really?

Something to add to b eig oogleale and cheque writable is to think about email addresses - if you want a business is is going to take the first name . last name @ business . co . uk form (as loads fo emails and business might go astray if ts an odd or difficult to spell name - I know I always had to spell my maiden name every time - became a joke!

Proonerama.

I think it depends on type of business really, double-barreled surnames work very nicely in male tailoring service, exotic in tanning boutiques, boring in plumboing supplies.
Not suggesting those would be your lines of work though, obviously, not that there's anything wrong with those professions, or with boring names, or that yours whatever it is is boring, oh bugger it, please accept my apologies for offence caused to plumbers, beauty technicians and tailors everywhere.

I have a double-barreled surname and it is bloody annoying, people don't get it over the phone and meant I had no option to double-barrel myself with dp. Who, incidently, I am marrying soonish and will change name to rid myself of this annoyance, and def not because I will be his wife and he must own me and claim me by robbing me of my history If I hadn't been d-b he'd have had my name

She ripped out the New Testament. It was a gift from the local vicar to my great grandmother (duly inscribed and dated 1809 or thereabouts). I think he wanted to Convert the Heathen/Hun.

(sorry - what is the new E about? i windered if it were a pruni imposter. or a stalker. its prob something innocuous...)

Prunerooney

PruneMaiden?

PruneMadchen?

PruneMacheninUniform?

prumu

(I deregistered some time ago - managed two weeks! - and can't be arsed to email MNHQ to get the old Pruni name back...I don't like the -e, it's not me...)

OK, will give it some thought. It really does have to be me as a name and not a brand. I think my name is just so blah that nobody will remember it! And as for google, pah, there are millions of me.
THis will probably all be in vain, as I am certain DH will recoil in horror and lose respect and then I will feel unable to appropriate his name. And I can't exactly argue that it doesn't matter, it's only a name, as he is proud of me for standing up for myself when being strongarmed to change it.

my dad took my mums name.
turns out my mums name is that of my nanas 2nd husband and not her own father. rather makes the point thatbeing attached to a surname in a historically patriarchal society is a pile of poo, for a woman that is.

having said that, i feel like my surname. would feel odd to change. amybe i will combine, maybe i will stay as i am. kind of a moot point atm as we're not getting hitched anytime soon.

irrelevent i know. sorry.

You see, Pruni(e) - you don't like the new name. It's not you...

2 weeks eh? good going!

i nreally must get off this thing and get on with RL. will do it one day.

maybe.

Merge them! That's what we did. Brand new unique name and no feminist issues.

I took on DH's name as mine was so unusual and difficult here in Germany. (They do not understand that the bit that comes after Mac has a capital, eg. MacDonald, MacBevie...

If we were to move to UK, then the Brits would have problems with DHs name (which is unusual in Germany and not pronouncable in UK)

We did consider double barreling, but were not feeling cruel enough to inflict that on our DCs (plus, I could not be bothered spelling both names all the time)

In business, I have got around the slightly unusual German name by using my first name. This means that my email address is englishwith[kindersurprise]@website.de

This isn't remotely feminist or principled of me, but I would be very inclined to go with your dh's name. I think it would just be more right for your business, and it sounds kind of distinguished. Not that yours isn't of course . I do think your point about his family is a valid one, too, and it's perfectly possible to use both names interchangeably like wot I do.

lol
It isn't though, is it?! It's kind of bland and his name isn't.
We could merge our names...to comic effect
DH publishes as his name though so would never go for it

I do think his name is better...Will try to sow the seeds in his mind.

Do you think he'd mind, or would he just be taken aback? It's your ds's name too, after all. Hey, you could be Pruni and Son then when he joins the family business

I think he is far more likely to be going in dh's direction - apparently wants to be a virus scientist
Now who could have put that in his brain, eh?

Hmmm, I wonder. Oh bless him, you could get him a tiny wee lab coat

Don't go for a hard-to-spell name if its got any letters in it which are at all difficult to distinguish over the phone. I was glad to ditch my original surname but hadn't realised that DHs unusual one could be mis-spelled so many ways and that many people can't hear the difference between double-m and double-n

Names don't matter.

choose the one that sounds best