Sympathy cards

[blossomsmine]

This is abit of a delicate subject and hope i am not upsetting anyone on here. I need to send a sympathy card and havent a clue what to write in it. A lady i used to work with has lost her husband after a couple of years of illness, i don't see her very often at all but she is a lovely person. I just don't know what is 'proper' to write in it, i don't want to sound too 'gushy' but also want to show compassion. I am not very good with words can anyone help, please.

i would simply write "thinking of you at this very sad time"

i always just put "thinking of you"

Just stop and think, you'll know what to write.

Look at this it should help you.

Thank you to all of you for your help. Soph73 the link was very helpful aswell and will be good for the future also. I can use that as a starting point and also,like mentioned i need to sit and take time and it will hopefully all 'come out' right. Thanks again.

a friend of mine at work lost his wife unexpectedly in an accident - after quite some thought - and some mn inspiration - i wrote something along these lines (knowing that he was surrounded by family) "Dear X, I am thinking about you daily. [that bit was so true - it was so awful - a hit and run - I was haunted by it]I hope you find the strength and comfort you need at this time, with much love, hat"

I sent one a couple of weeks ago to my DD's nursery teacher (her daughter killed herself, leaving behind a 6 and a 3 year old )

I agree, just stop and think and you'll know
I also mentioned her daughter by name and said sorry to hear she'd died, no euphemisms as I expect she may become pretty fed up with people skirting around it all

I did ask on here whether to send one, the answer was unanimously 'yes' and I'm glad I did, have spoken to the teacher about it. Your friend will be very touched that you're thinking about her

Did you ever meet her husband? If so, you could include something along the lines of "X and I only met [once/a few times] but I was immediately struck by [something about him]". If you met more often, you could add an anecdote "Whenever I think of X, I will remember the time that...".

If you didn't know him or only met him a couple of times maybe something like "whenever you spoke about X I was conscious of [something positive about their relationship]".

Then add something heartfelt about how you are thinking about her. There's no need for a huge letter.