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Questions for mothers of older children

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Twigless · 03/11/2004 20:01

My 2 are 3.8 and 6 months and I must say I love having them, think they are so funny and interesting ... but I sometimes worry (probably too strong a word) whether I'll spend the time as they get older looking back on these days and wishing they were babies again

So reassure me .. it just gets better doesn't it? or do you pine for the days when they were babes in arms?

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WideWebWitch · 03/11/2004 20:02

Gets better imo. No pining going on in my house (but she is only 11 months!)

Tinker · 03/11/2004 20:06

It does get better but I wish I could go back as well sometimes, I've just forgotten so much of the baby detail. I do love babies though, I know some people aren't mad on that stage.

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Twigless · 03/11/2004 20:07

11 months doesn't count that's a babe in arms

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motherinferior · 03/11/2004 20:07

Tinker, you ARE going back! (cackles evilly at thought of those first five months...)

lou33 · 03/11/2004 20:08

teenagedom is hell

Tinker · 03/11/2004 20:09

I know MI. Am sure I shall live to eat that post.

motherinferior · 03/11/2004 20:09

Actually, that does worry me. Because my relationship with my parents broke down pretty well permanently when I was a teenager. So I worry, like hell, that I only have a few years of my children AT ALL...

Is it uninterrupted hell, Lou? Or only hell on the scale, say, of a new baby?

lou33 · 03/11/2004 20:12

I guess it depends on the teenager. Dd1 isn't 13 until april, but right now I would gladly swap her for half a dozen babies.

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Twigless · 03/11/2004 20:13

my new baby isn't hell at all .. she's still angelic

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Twigless · 03/11/2004 20:13

I'm gonna have nightmare teenagers aren't I?

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motherinferior · 03/11/2004 20:17

I find the new baby experience pretty hellish. Then it gets better and they become adorable and you decide to prolong the ecstacy and have another. Which is why I am currently focusing on the hellishness aspect as a way of limiting the number of inferiorettes currently eating up my bank balance

Tinker · 03/11/2004 20:18

Oh, have another one, you know you want one

motherinferior · 03/11/2004 20:19

Don't!!!!!

Had vision of three of them the other day. And rather nice it was too. NOOOOOO!!!!

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Twigless · 03/11/2004 20:20

I think the world could do with 3 inferiorettes ..

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Twigless · 03/11/2004 20:20

you do make gorgeous children MI

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JoolsToo · 03/11/2004 20:23

I don't know about better - its all a wonderful journey to me - every stage was fab - even the teen years. You NEVER stop worrying - they're always your kids. If you're lucky - as I am - you'll get the babe in arms again with your grandchildren and be marvelled all over again - magic!

GRMUM · 03/11/2004 20:48

I'm with jools on this one - every stage is fab.I am really enjoying seeing mine grow up and develop more towards adulthood. Mindyou we ahven't had any real bad teenage stroppiness as yet. Sometimes when I look at photos I wish i could go back to that particular moment in time but on the whole I wouldn't go back cos I don't think I could physically cope with it now!

MarsLady · 03/11/2004 20:54

Currently living with a pre-teen and 2 babes in arms. With 2 in between I feel as though I will always be living with each stage. Kids are gorgeous, though I couldn't eat a whole one. Am pretty sure that we will all have moments (however brief) when we wish they were babies again, then we'll enjoy them as they are and then we'll be excited about the next stage. And as to grandchildren.....

JanH · 03/11/2004 21:11

Very much swings and roundabouts, twigless darling. No more pooey nappies is more than made up for by argumentative teens leaving sweaty socks under and on all available surfaces.

However I do miss the baby days and would love to go back and do it again properly.

HTH.

lou33 · 03/11/2004 21:18

I prefer them smaller.

Twiglett · 03/11/2004 21:18

gosh .. just realised I was still twigless and not me

tigermoth · 03/11/2004 21:51

I prefer them bigger. I love it when reason creeps into their minds. I loved being an older child myself - many of my happiest times were from ages 7 to 11. I had all the basics under my belt (talking, walking, feeding myself etc) yet grownups never expected too much of me, and I had no thoughts of boyfriends or career.

I envy my sons their childhood. I am desperately hoping their teenagerhood is not as bad as I think it will be.

Goldfish · 03/11/2004 22:19

Same here, ds1 is 11 on Saturday and ds 2 is 9. Time has flown but much as I loved it when they were younger they can be really good company now and we can have proper conversations (well, sometimes anyway). The thing I find hardest is knowing how much freedom to give them as they want to go out with their friends and when they do I worry myself sick, just like my mum did, even if they are 2 minutes late, although they are very punctual. I absolutely dread the time that they go out in the evenings. at least now they are safely in bed.

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