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Why has this irked me so much?!

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Schrutesbeets · 04/05/2021 15:53

I absolutely know IABU, but can't shake the irritation.
So basically I've decided to start a new hobby, it's an outdoor activity and some of the equipment costs a bit. I've been planning to start it for a while, and have just invested in some kit which should arrive next week so I can start.
I've been so excited about it - I'm on maternity leave and have been breastfeeding newborn and looking after our toddler whilst dh works long days, so it's the first thing I've done for myself in over a year.
Anyway, dh just sent a message before saying he'd been talking to his mate about it and they've decided to go and do said activity at the weekend.
Now of course he's entitled to go and try out anything that takes his fancy, I don't have any more right than him, and I know I'm being petty and immature. But it's really annoyed me. I was looking forward to having something for myself, and now he's just casually going to do it before I'll have even had a chance myself. Also, why couldn't he have asked me to go with him? We've not had a chance to do much together in ages with having the kids with us all the time, but I'm sure we could have arranged my mum to take the kids for a couple of hours.
I know this is so ridiculous, and irrational. Why do I feel so annoyed?!

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NuffSaidSam · 04/05/2021 19:32

Get your mum to have the kids.

Message back 'great, I'll join you!'.

I don't think YABU.

Are you annoyed because it's indicative of a wider problem? Is he generally a bit thoughtless? Do you think he's been pulling his weight at home more generally?

lazylinguist · 04/05/2021 19:35

YANBU. He's being annoying.

AnExcellentWalker · 04/05/2021 19:41

I know this is so ridiculous, and irrational. Why do I feel so annoyed?!

Because he's arranged it with someone else without even checking that you'll be ok to stay in with the kids first? He just assumed. Obviously you don't need a life...

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