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What do you do............

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Flum · 01/11/2004 23:24

A neighbours baby died in the night only a few months old. I hardly know her but it keeps making me cry. Lovely family and want to send best wishes and some comforting words - but would they be a comfort...... but don't want to impose

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blossomhill · 01/11/2004 23:27

Perhaps send a card?

KangaMummy · 01/11/2004 23:30

I think send a card and please when you next see them please do not cross over the street or ignore them all you need do is say hello.

Ignoring them face to face is the worst thing to do IMHO and IME

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Flum · 01/11/2004 23:31

Yeah I guess. Its just so rare isn't it I don't really know what to do.

My friends Gran lost 3 babies before they were a year old, but nowadays you hardly ever know someone it happened to. We very lucky I guess.

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Flum · 01/11/2004 23:33

God, no I wont ignore her, the only thing I always remember when people lose a loved one is at they always want to talk about them lots, its the only way to heal isn't it.

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KangaMummy · 01/11/2004 23:37

sorry I didn't mean that you would ignore them

perhaps if you put a link to berievment thread you may get some more help.

KangaMummy · 01/11/2004 23:39

the thing in favour of a card is that they can read it over again at a later time and may give some comfort in the future.

KangaMummy · 01/11/2004 23:52

sorry flum

I was really rude to you

I just went off on one it is just IME that did happen sometimes.

sorry again

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Flum · 01/11/2004 23:55

You weren't rude!!!

you should see some of my posts - I come on here to be rude sometimes, its fun to mix it up a bit, cheap thrills I guess.

I was just idly thinking what to do.

i will send a card. the end. thanks bye bye

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Flum · 01/11/2004 23:57

you lost your baby? its so sad, nothing can make it better I don't think. you know of course people just feel uncomfortable with death, not that they mean to be rude. you know that of course.

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KangaMummy · 02/11/2004 00:03

yes I was a bit like that beforehand

I never knew anyone who died {the only ones were older generation family when I was 7 years old}

but once you have been through it it really changes you and your outlook

Jimjams · 02/11/2004 10:57

Take some flowers over or drop off a card and make sure you say something when you see her. My friend just lost her little boy and she is finding the cross the streeters really hard to deal with.

woodpops · 02/11/2004 11:01

I'd send a card. It's always nice to know other people are thinking of you and your not alone.

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