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Do you think this is weird, something DS2's teacher told them today....

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MegaaahooohLegs · 02/11/2007 21:15

... I know, he's 6 and they don't always get it right but to me that makes the comments she made today semm more odd!

The class were talking about Saints. DS2 said, "Mrs X says that Saints are always good and that th three nasty ladies from her church will never be saints."

I aked why they were nasty he replied " They say terrible things about Mrs X and point at her and say bad things about everybody."

She also told them that she had been off school to attend a funeral as her neighbour's baby had stopped breathing and had died .

Why would she feel the need to share this with a class of 6/7 year olds. DS2 is quite sensitive and this really upset him for a bit.

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MegaaahooohLegs · 02/11/2007 21:16

Wow - that is aclumsy thread title.

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chankins · 02/11/2007 21:17

Yes, very weird ! Don't think teachers should really be sharing such things from her private life with young children ! Do other parents feel the same as you ? You could have a little word !

edam · 02/11/2007 21:18

That does sound very odd. What a strange woman! Normally I'd think it was the 6yo misinterpreting something, but the phrasing suggests she did actually say those things.

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MegaaahooohLegs · 02/11/2007 21:21

Yes, I think I'll see if anyone elses DC commented before I wade in. The baby thing may have been significant as they raised money for a baby charity recently but I still think it was odd.

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MrsLynetteScavo · 02/11/2007 21:22

It does sound wierd, but I've often been suprised at how much my DS seems to know about his teachers private lives. I think it might be worth having a word with the head, asking for your conversation to be kept confidential. - The last thing you want is an unstable teacher being annoyed with you.

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MegaaahooohLegs · 02/11/2007 21:23

We hav eparents' eve next week and I will be interested to meet her face to face as she has made it clear that she doesn't want parents in classroom.

She is approaching retirement and has a reputation for being quite tough - she was deliberately put with the yr1 class rather than her usual yr5 to sort out discipline. She shouts at them ALOT.

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MegaaahooohLegs · 02/11/2007 21:26

MrsLS - that reminds me of another strange comment she made. We had a meet the teacher session when all the parents were invited for an introductory talk. She said that she would be tough and she had high expectations and that if we had any problems not to go to the head but to see her first - trouble is she is very unapproachable.

DS is very good at school but he is terrified that he'll get into trouble and be shouted at.

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MegaaahooohLegs · 02/11/2007 21:29

I'm off to watch A&M - will see if DS2 has any more revelations over the w/e.

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BreeVanDerCampLGJ · 02/11/2007 21:30

DS is in YR2, he has a shouty teacher. He loves her. He had candy floss last year, he cruised. This year he is soaring.

I thought the explanation of the funeral was spot on for YR1 or YR2.

I would really take a lot of YR1/YR2 with a pinch of salt. TBH

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MegaaahooohLegs · 02/11/2007 22:11

Why did she need to tell them she'd been to funeral though, let alone a baby's?

Why take it with a pinch of salt, he's my DS, these stories have bothered him enough for him to tell me about them. He is not a sensitive flower at all - quite a toughy infact, but he has openend up about these recent issues despite never telling me anything much about school in the past.

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edam · 02/11/2007 22:17

I think you are right to see it as 'he's mentioning this because it's bothering him'. If he was OK with it, he wouldn't have said anything about it. Explanation of the funeral sounds age-appropriate if you do have to say anything about it, but why bring it up in the first place?

nooka · 02/11/2007 22:21

I wonder if the teacher is perhaps not very happy at the moment? They don't sound very appropriate things to say (although small children do sometimes report things very oddly). If other parents have similar concerns I do think this is something to bring up with the school.

ChipButty · 02/11/2007 22:21

If children ask why you have not been teaching them, why is it not acceptable to tell them you have been at a funeral? If they want to know whose funeral and it was a baby's, why not tell them? Death happens. It's sad but it's a fact of life.

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MegaaahooohLegs · 02/11/2007 22:22

Exactly edam - it was a coincidence that this charity event was going on at school at a similar time to the funeral, I can see how it could be relevant but just don't feel it appropriate.

The comments about the ladies at her church were really odd.

I asked DS why she was telling them about the ladies and he told me it was because you "should never try and be friends with bad people because they don't really want to be your friend".

Should she really be piling her 'ishoos' onto her infant school class?

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MegaaahooohLegs · 02/11/2007 22:25

I don't know if they asked her though ChipButty. Maybe they did, and sure death is part of life, but she told them alot of details about the baby being ill, going to hospital etc.. it was part of someone else's life, not my carefree 6 year old's.

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ChipButty · 02/11/2007 22:26

Perhaps you should have a word with her then.

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MegaaahooohLegs · 02/11/2007 22:33

I'm hoping to sort of bring it up at the parents' eve on Thursday, I'm sure she is a very nice lady but I have to admit to having feeling s of trepidation, and I am an ex-teacher FGS!

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pania · 03/11/2007 12:22

I wonder how many of the children in the class have baby brothers or sisters at home and are now frightened that they will stop breathing and die?

Really don't think it was appropriate for her to go into that with such young chldren.

mamazon · 03/11/2007 12:24

maybe she was trying to explain to them taht talkign about people and being mean was not a nice thing to do.

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MegaaahooohLegs · 03/11/2007 13:09

Reading this back I realised taht I'd drunkenly contradicted myself by saying DS2 was sensitive in my OP and then saying he wasn't at all sensitive a few posts later. I think what I meant was that he is sensitive in that he is a dweller and will think deeply about what may seem fairly innocous comments, but he doesn't become obviously upset by things. Rather he asks lots of questons annd talks over the situation in a bid to understand something better. That is what he has been doing after this incident.

Pania - that is the sort of thing that would cross DS2's mind, DS4 is older now but DS2 used to really flap when DS4 had some dramamtic choking episodes.

mamazon, you are right, that is the message she wanted to deliver, I just felt it too extreme and personal for a Yr1 class.

I should not be here, friends here for lunch, hust needed to put myself right.
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MegaaahooohLegs · 03/11/2007 13:09

Friends not literally here, they are due any minute (I'm not that much of an addict!!)

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kindersurprise · 03/11/2007 13:20

I think that the teacher is being unreasonable to tell her class things that belong in her private life.

There could be no reason to tell 6 yo that she was at a funeral, let alone tell them details of the death of a baby.

You should definately talk to her and if need be talk to the headteacher.

looneytune · 04/11/2007 17:56

Not surprised you're not happy with her, god, I'd be well unhappy too!

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