This is a mean post so if you love your MIL click off now!
My MIL is very boring! She has sweet intentions (on the surface) but she's goes on about DH (he is aware) and she's a little passive aggressive.
She has never hosted or cooked a meal for me in 11 years but she will subtly criticise my food choices or a meal I have prepared for her.
She retired at 60, is a hoarder and is privileged in the sense she can afford to go out for lunch with her friends (pre covid of course) as many times a month as she likes and even travel abroad.
She cheated on FIL so she's single and lives alone.
She does NOTHING! She doesn't even keep a tidy house or clear it. When she rings me it is painful. What is there to talk about?! She loves to have an illness so I often have to hear about that - in reality she's very healthy for her age.
I'm now expecting a baby in March and I dread her calling me more because she knows I am off work or worse - visiting regularly.
She really stress DH out as she guilt trips him often but then I think what does she offer? Not that a mum has to offer anything but it's not like there's an invite to Sunday lunch and we can spend time together over a meal- she just literally exists.
I have had a heart to heart with her in the past and encouraged her to seize life and enjoy it. She acknowledged as her best friend has several types of cancer she is wasting her life and she was going to look into loving and then low and behold she didn't do a thing. Sigh.
I'm just being a negative Nellly but if anyone is in the same situation any coping mechanisms welcome.
The worst part is I adore her sisters who are much more interesting and down to earth. The whole family doesn't like my MIL because she pretends to be innocent in front of DH but is actually very judgey and bossy to everyone else in the family.