Mummy time v Daddy time

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Oh how they differ .
DH was out this afternoon, so DS (who is a bit under the weather with a tummy bug) and I read some books, did colouring, leaf rubbings & OK - did watch a bit of TV, whilst I sorted some washing.
DH came in & we did a swap & I negotiated some MN time. DH then put the laptop on for DS to play some games (Ok they were educational), whilst he read the paper with the footie on !
Tee Hee - sounds familiar anyone ?

yes!!!
dh looks after dd and ds 1 evening a week (while I goto work) = watching dvd followed by trip to KFC/Mcdonalds

and has the guts to say it's not a big deal looking after the kids etc

Have you ever noticed that McDonalds is ALWAYS full of dads and kids at the weekend? I am scared to go in there as I get stared at (perhaps I should be preparing a three course meal for my partner at home, instead of buying fast food?) Yeah, right!

Does your dh really reckon it's not a big deal Lailag? Ahh, how little men really know eh?

My ds decided last week that he wants to see his dad on alternate Saturdays to me instead of every Saturday for 5 (whole) hours...the reason he gave his dad was that he loves us both as much as each other and wants to see us equally. He obviously lives with me...but bless him!

I used to say that if I had one wish it would be to give men periods for a day, but I think to give the kids to them for a week would be a lot more interesting and ALOT more funny!

My dh thinks that daddy time is about winding the kids up and getting them excited running around the house, he feeds them but leaves the mess for me to clean up, and generally does nothing constructive until the sport starts then he gets the puzzles out!

My dh also has the ordasity(?) to say i never take the kids to the park like he does! Cough cough! Whne do i get the chance to load all kids including the 2 i look after for other people in the car and drive to a park, unload again and also do everything else (housework, cooking, laundry) Btw parks are about 10 mins away in car and walikng is a nitemare with 4 kids all under 4! MEN! tut tut

Childmindersam - I think it's audacity but I'm open to corrections!

Well I'm working all day so am over at Mum's to avoid distractions from kids. DH rang earlier and I could hear all 3 little ones crying in the background. I said 'oh no are you having a stressful time' to which he replied 'well, it's giving me a good appreciation of what you have to do every day'. So not a pointless exercise today then!!

Yep - sometimes I think he doesn't think it's that hard but that's because when he looks after the kids, that's all he does, whereas I look after them AND do all the washing, drying , ironing, cleaning bathroom, washing floors, dusting, hoovering.... I'm not complaining as I'm SAHM so I suppose it's my role but my day looking after the kids is more jam-packed with activities than his. He admits it though and knows he doesn't do the same amount as me and is generally very helpful, WHEN I ASK!!

thanks! not a word i write often!!!!!!!!

in defence of daddies, DH is currently reading DD a bedtime story, whilst I am here MN'ing and sipping a bottle of Stella. Will have to go in a mo to sing a song and tuck her in bed.

DH took the 4yo & 3yo off to his mums' for the weekend.
[Insert smug smilie here...]
However, talking to the 4yo on the phone last night, first thing he tells me is about how he went to the library with granny & chose a Thomas the TE video!

LOL Zebra!! Ah well, if it makes him happy!

Such a weekend topic! A couple of questions I've been musing over this weekend:

why is it that sometimes breakfast in bed just "appears" for dp, but I only ever get it if I buy the stuff in, suggest he goes and prepares it and often look after ds while he's gone?

why is it that I never get time alone on the weekend, but often go out with ds alone, therefore ds either gets "Mummy Time" or "Mummy and Daddy Time" (apart from when I'm snoozing, but I class that as looking after our other child!)?

PS, I've just realised that the answer to both of those questions is "because I'm stupid and should be more assertive!"

Weeelll. This afternoon dh has played for ages with dd in the garden, kicking a ball around (which I never do, too cold!). And he took her with him to return a dvd, get petrol and milk (so that would be an example of a male multitasking - childminding and doing some jobs!). And he's doing bathtime now, playing with her for ages and getting soaked in the name of fun (also something I don't do!). Whereas mummy time has consisted of me and dd sitting next to each other eating our tea while watching Storymakers.

Sounds totally familiar. Dh went looking after dd doesn't even have the good grace to put cbeebies on - she has to put up with sky sports. And when dh is looking after baby ds he cries with boredom, as baby ds is expected to be vastly entertained merely by sitting on dh's knee with the occasional bit of knee jiggling as stimulation

Supposed to be 'when' not 'went'

LOL, all of your posts sound so familiar. DH is quite good but has a tendancy to leave the the mess for me to clear up. For instance, we all went to the baby show this morning, when we got back, we put dd down for her nap then dh played his playstation game and I put away our purchases, sorted through all the stuff we picked up, made lunch and got her stuff ready for our afternoon visit to her grandparents!!!!
I shouldn't complain really though as he is very good at entertaining her ie throwing her up in the air, chasing her round the table, teaching her to make faces! I think she sees him as fun daddy whilst I am sensible mummy!