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Thinking of having a long break or leaving MN

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nutcracker · 22/10/2004 21:08

I know loads of people will say no don't go (she hopes anyhow )

Anyway i'm not even sure why but i just feel quite crappy recently as am having money probs, relationship, probs e.t.c e.t.c. and am just not sure being on MN all the time is helping although i do really appreciate any advice i'm given.

If i could stay away remains to be seen anyway, but i feel like i've lost touch with reality a bit and am sinking into a black hole.

I know a few others have had breaks , did you think it helped at all ???

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unicorn · 22/10/2004 23:24

hiya nutty!!

have a break if you need to we all need to getaway sometimes....
but don't worry- we won't forget you... and will all be here for you whenever you need it.

xxxxxxx

Davros · 23/10/2004 08:57

Nutty, DO follow uo Chicpea's ofer....
Take a break if you feel it will help you engage better with RL and then come back. You will be missed

miam · 23/10/2004 09:24

Will miss you so much Nutty - you are such a large part of MN. But that is me being selfish. If you feel you need a break then that will be the best thing to do. I've had a couple of breaks to put my mind back into order (and the housework!!) and it really helped. I'm trying to limit my time on MN - hard but necessary. Also just sticking to certain threads reduces my time.

I do think a break is a good thing, as long as you come back again!! xxx

jampot · 23/10/2004 09:26

Nutty - please don't go......

jampot · 23/10/2004 09:33

actually nutty - have you found a job yet? I was in Solihull the other day and they are advertising for jobs at M&S, Thorntons, Woollies, Bodyshop (i think) - in fact a great deal of the main shops have adverts in the windows. M&S are doing a "interview session" i think on Fridays which ends on 4th November in our store. You have to bring along a couple of forms of ID. Check out your local store. I;m sure most of these shops have outlets in Sutton too...

ScummyMummy · 23/10/2004 09:57

Good luck, nutster. I'll miss you if you decide to go.

Re: leaving- excessive mumsnetting has definitely coincided with less "dynamic" times in my life. I've noticed I tend to post a lot more if I am a bit bored with aspects of my real life. A couple of years ago I went from a job I hated to a job I loved and my posting habits went from "daily without fail" to "every now and then" almost overnight. I've recently given up the loved job and started a f-t college course, which I'm finding quite dull so far. Suddenly I find myself on mumsnet all the time again!

I think the trouble is that it's easier to read/post a lot on mumsnet than actually get off my bum and DO some of the useful stuff which might make me feel less uninspired eg get a headstart on some assignments or reading or put some energy into making my flat beautifully tidy and presentable. In other words, mumsnet is a procrastinator's nightmare, IMO, and I am a superb procrastinator when I am not throwing myself into something I love doing (and even then I have my moments!). So for me, yes, finding myself doing a lot of mumsnetting can alert me to the need to sort some RL stuff out. Finding the will power to stay away is another thing entirely though...

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nutcracker · 23/10/2004 18:07

Hi guys, thanks so much for all the messages.

I'm not sure i do have the willpower to stay away but i think i really do have to try. My head feels in such a mess at the mo and instead of confronting it all i am spending more and more time on here.

Jampot - Thanks for thinking of me regarding the jobs. I had a thanks but no thanks from Woolies and ELC (again) today. Wasn't really surprised as i have nothing to offer in the way of experiance.
I will have to find something though as the cashpoint has just refused me money again and i have loads of bills to pay nevermind food to buy.
Will be resorting to doing a paperround at this rate.

I will still probably lurk a bit just incase anything major occurs , and i really really hope that eventually i can come back and tell you all that my life is 100% better.

Aero - I will CAT you

Davros - Do you know something i don't

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captainCOD · 23/10/2004 18:12

why do they say no?
did you wrote to them or have they no jobs or what?

Aero · 23/10/2004 18:12

Was just about to put a call out for you!

marthamoo · 23/10/2004 18:19

Nutty, I do know what you mean - but you'll be missed.

Keep trying on the job front - you don't need experience - they'll train you and they'd be lucky to have you. Loads of shops need people at Christmas - just keep asking. I was unemployed for two years after I graduated and my confidence and self-esteem were as low as they could be - I got a temporary Christmas job in BHS (in the lingerie department!) and it really boosted my confidence (not to mention my finances).

Best of luck xx

captainCOD · 23/10/2004 18:20

M and s need peoplle

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nutcracker · 23/10/2004 18:21

ELC said the same as last time which was basically that i don't meet their critera or something. Bloody little postcard thingy they send.

Woolies said all there evening posts had been filled (not sure i believe them) but they would keep me on file.

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marthamoo · 23/10/2004 18:23

Nutty, what I did was get smartened up a bit, and drag round Manchester - from shop to shop - asking if they needed Christmas staff. It was kind of soul-destroying but I got there in the end (staff discount is good reason to work in a shop too!) Don't be put off by two places turning you down - keep trying!

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nutcracker · 23/10/2004 18:24

The prob is too that tax credits said that when i fill in my forms for next year if i have worked over xmas they will take this into account. My money is already gonna go down next time cos dp's has gone up a bit.

Makes me soooooo bloody mad.

I know this is a very bad thing to ask but does anywhere do cash in hand now ??? Chip shops ???

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clairabelle · 23/10/2004 19:33

nutty
could you take in ironing or do a cleaning job that would pay cash in hand.

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nutcracker · 23/10/2004 19:36

I would do a cleaning job yeah but would have to take Ds along so don't think that would work.

I'm not doing a very good job of leaving am i

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marthamoo · 23/10/2004 19:37

Wasn't going to mention that, nutty....you're like one of those permanent "Closing Down!" sales

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nutcracker · 23/10/2004 19:40

I know

O.k then maybe for starters i'll just cut back, wean myself off so to speak.

Right from now on i will not be on until after 1.30pm and will switch off again at 4.30 to do dinner (instead of burning it cos of reading MN).
Won't switch back on again then until 7.30 when kids are in bed.

Hows that for starters ???

Probably won't be on much next week anyway cos kids are off.

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MistressMary · 23/10/2004 19:42

The idea is not to post and once you don't post then you don't bother to read if anyone had replied.
That's what I used to do. Works for a bit, just a bit though.

tigermoth · 24/10/2004 09:35

it works for me!

tigermoth · 24/10/2004 09:36

but I will be back to my old habits very soon...

luckymum · 24/10/2004 09:40

Make the most of it now Nutty - when the kids get a bit older you won't get a look in. What with Cbeebies, the bl**dy Sims and ds1 on MSN, I have been suitably weaned to less than an hours MN a day

And talking of cutting down i haven't had any Booze for 3 weeks but don't have time to find the 'Giving up Booze' thread.

ChicPea · 25/10/2004 20:19

Tigermoth, do you know you are "thanked" in the foreward of the Mumsnet Pregnancy book which I saw in Waterstones today? It was published some time this year!!!!!

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nutcracker · 25/10/2004 20:20

chicpea - am working on getting my perscription but the kids are off so can't get to the opticans yet.

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nutcracker · 25/10/2004 20:21

Oh and i'm doing a crap job of staying away incase anyone hadn't noticed

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