So upset

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tammybear · 22/10/2004 16:22

I dont know why I am. Have had such a bad day as it is, and this has just topped it all off!! But just spoke to my mum who's birthday it is tomorrow and she told me about a letter she got yesterday. Was about my dad filing for divorce. Havent been living together and seperated 12 years ago but has really upset me. Not too sure why. Maybe its cos he didnt have the guts to say to my mum that he was going to do it, even though a few months ago, he had said when giving the choice by his now ex girlfriend that he wouldnt get a divorce. Cant speak too much as doin dinner, but just wanted to tell someone as dp is about to start work, and i cant talk to mum bout it with her birthday tomorrow and I need to stop the tears which i dont even know why im crying

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Yorkiegirl · 22/10/2004 16:27

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Amai · 22/10/2004 16:31

{[((((((((tammybear)))))))))]} Big hug, just have a good cry if you need to. I don't know your relationship with your parents but I am sure they are not trying to hurt you. You'll fell better in the morning hopefully in time for your mum's birthday. If you talk to her about it you may feel better knowing she is coping?

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tammybear · 22/10/2004 17:10

Just waiting for chips now. Ive stopped crying. Think it was just initial shock of it. I feel so sorry for my mum who had no idea about this. Dont have much of a relationship with my dad. He just brought me a car, and wonder if he did that to soften the blow of the divorce. He signed the forms beginning of the month. Mums upset as she doesnt know where she stands. Although theyve been seperated 12 years, mum and us (kids) have stayed at home whilst dad went else where. His choice to leave. His maintenance for us was to pay the morgate which he still does now, so the house is in still both names. Mums now worried what will happen to the house and if dad can claim it or whatever. Shes off next week so will go to citizens advice and see what they say.

A few months ago, my dad split with his girlfriend who he had lived with for 6 years. She wanted marriage and for dad to get a divorce. dad didnt want the commitment and said he doesnt want to get a divorce. He then had nowhere to live so had hoped he could move back in with mum although there wasnt anywhere for him to stay. He now lives in London, or as far as I know. Not too sure if he is back with his girlfriend and is now getting a divorce because of this or what. dad hasnt seen a solicitor about it, has just gone through the courts.

he hasnt said anything to mum about it, which i think is why its come to such a shock to us all. im staying at mums tomorrow to keep her company and as its her birthday, will try to take her mind off it and enjoy her birthday.

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champs · 22/10/2004 17:36

tammybear, so sorry you feel so bad. hope your mum has a nice birthday despite of all the upset. (((((((hugs)))))))

champs · 26/10/2004 03:15

hi TB, just thought I'd post to see how it all went and how you are.

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