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personal attacks from MN'etters

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leglebegle · 22/10/2004 10:58

What is it with certain women on this site? I have read so many threads of late regarding people leaving MN due to horrible attacks on them from other MN'etters. I felt sad when I read them and was the unfortunate victim myself yesterday. I had been taking part in the Geldof on marriage...grrrr thread, and wrote that I thought he made certain points which were valid as I believe men and women should have equal rights over their children. Hardly a threatening view point you would think. I didn't check that thread for several days and checked it last night. I had received an acknowledgment from someone who I won't name because she knows who she is, basically calling me fit to burn. Okay, so she has a different opinion from me, and its pretty much the opposite one from mine, but why do I have to be subjected to a personal attack on my character? with references to my not being fit to do my job etc. Its just really bitchy to behave in that way. I can understand her reading my opinion and feeling emotional because its different from hers, but I can't understand her feeling so angry and feeling the need to blast me in that way. At the end of the day, she made references to her point of view regarding men and women, and I found her points to be as 'disgusting 'outrageous' and 'inflammatory' as she says she found mine. But MN is about supporting each other, and about being a forum of friendship and of respect. It is not respectful of each other to behave as if we have the right to be as hurtful as we like because we are 'outraged' that someone has a different opinion than ourselves. I have made some great contacts through the meet ups sections, have joined a book club, and have gleaned a wealth of information from this vast support network. I think I'll stick to my particular meet up thread, and only contribute to non confrontational threads in the future. Anything political I'll keep well clear of.

Anyone else had an experience like this?

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acer · 22/10/2004 11:58

Thank you

acer · 22/10/2004 12:00

I have just gone and found someone else to talk to, and it doesn't really bother me, as when I have started a conversation most people are really nice and friendly (well all actually)

leglebegle · 22/10/2004 12:01

I found references to Edam being worried about someone with my views being in the 'family courts' to be offensive. But you're right, you shouldn't expect people to not respond to your posts or to disagree with them. Edam and I obviously have extremely different view points on this, and I suspect would have about most things. The one thing we do agree with is though that it is too silly to care about. So sorry for troubling you all, thanks to those who contributed and let that be the end of that.

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MistressMary · 22/10/2004 12:04

Nor me an a failry new person about the place.

leglebegle · 22/10/2004 12:05

Ps. fio, you made the point I think I was trying to make badly this morning, it pissed me off that some people take themselves so bloody seriously on this site. thanks for making it better than I did

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Papillon · 22/10/2004 12:05

Halloween is soon so all the thread killers, trolls and lurkers are invited to the land of litotes for respect, friendship and earbashing

edam · 22/10/2004 12:11

Leglebegle, I don't want you to think I object to you personally - there may well be things we do agree on, just not that particular issue, obviously. No hard feelings on my part, hope not on yours ? I'm really not bothered by you calling me a man hater because you were obviously just sounding off because you were peed off by my post.
Hope we can just agree to disagree on that particular issue and leave it there?

leglebegle · 22/10/2004 12:13

absolutely! thanks for that x

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Marina · 22/10/2004 12:14

That's good to see
Fio, are you back to being Fio for good (hopeful emoticon)?

edam · 22/10/2004 12:15

No problem x
Am now getting emotional, stupidly, but in a positive way because we've cleared up the misunderstanding!

sweetheart · 22/10/2004 12:20

Although I don't know about the thread that was being discussed here I have been slagged off on another thread and I can tell you it's not nice.

I had an e-mail of support from a lady who has since withdrawn herself from MN because of the way it is becomming.

I vary rarely comment on topic boards now for fear of having the same experience.

I think there are certain people on her that should be ashamed of themselves.

Thankfully, I have found a thread that is supportive and I've made lots of good friends. If only the whole of MN was like this!!!!

fastasleep · 28/11/2004 20:47

Hey Legle! I'm not stalking you but have just popped in to send you HUGS

I've noticed the erm..lets say 'argumentative' posts and threads around here recently too! I'm not saying a word about anyone in particular though, love and peace maaan! ;)

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