My son's 1st birthday

[Cdog1889]

Hi everyone, my baby boy will be 1 year old tomorrow! Time has flown! Basically I have made him a birthday cake myself, I’ve never made a birthday cake but I’ve done it myself this year as I wanted to do something special for him, especially as we’re in lockdown with limited things to do. However only a few days ago my mother in law called me to say she is helping her other son (my brother in law) make another birthday cake for him, as he just “wanted to make him one”. They knew months in advance I’m making the cake. Now don’t get me wrong, I’m sure it’s well meaning and a nice thing to do... but is that a little weird? Or am I being silly? Like I told them I’m making a special birthday cake for Theo- is it strange to have two birthday cakes? I think the main issue no one will really eat the cake, me and my husband are being very careful with sugary foods so we only want one slice of my cake. My husbands mother, father and brother are the only other people coming over for his birthday as they’re in our bubble. My husbands dad is diabetic and doesn’t eat cake, his brother who is making the cake doesn’t even like cake, so that really only leaves Toms mum to eat all the cake lol! Don’t you think it’s a little overkill and just plain weird? Or shall I just stop worrying haha? What would you say if you were in my shoes? X

I'd say it's a weird very first post... 😏

Accept the cake graciously, take photos then bin it

@Horehound ha, yes it is a weird very first post! I suppose I just was curious to see if people thought I was over-thinking things. At the same time, I did post in a sort of miscellaneous topic group, didn't think it would be too much of an issue to post!

@Finfintytint oh for sure I've already said it's okay, I'm sure I'm just being silly! I think because I have not made a cake before it's like this big deal in my mind! :)

It's your first post, in the wrong area about an in law cake issue... Designed to get people worked up, no?

If this is true it's just a cake so accept it, don't eat it, prioritise yours and tell them to take a wedge of their own one home as your on a diet.

@Horehound could I ask what is the right area to post such a topic? It says "other subjects" I took that as miscellaneous. Not designed at all to get people worked up, it was just asked out of curiosity- of course, it is just a cake and not a big deal! Your response shows me I'm definitely over thinking it 😅

OP, don’t fret about which topic. Some posters froth and try to police other posters.

@Finfintytint thank you :) I'm only a newbie! Of course this post is only a trivial matter, I didn't think it would cause any harm x

I'd imagine the Chat topic. But never mind.

Yes you are taking it way too seriously. If they make a cake well fine, that's nice but you shouldn't worry who is going to have what slice.

If you don't want it, don't eat it! And don't put the candles on that one since they knew you were making a cake already.

Responses are weird unless I don't understand something about other subjects. I agree....its weird and I woukd have said I'm making the cake as I mentioned a while ago and its something I want to do for my kid. Thats just me though and I think its rude for someone to make a cake when you are already

@Horehound okay I must have missed the chat topic section- I will know for next time. And thanks for your honesty I do think I'm being silly!

How is this post getting people worked up?! I dont think the op has done anything wrong. Anyway, op, you could cut the cake up and freeze it. Give a chunk for your family to take home.
I understand how you feel. I told my mum what we were getting my ds for Christmas last year and she went and bought him the exact same thing. She also gave her gift before us so got all the excitement. I decided to not let it bother me. Thee are worse things going on in the world after all! You just take care of the things you want to do and do it regardless. Have a wonderful time celebrating your baby's birthday!

What about if you have a little celebration the day before and have their cake then? Then you have yours on the proper day
I would have been PFB about my baby's first cake too @op

@Morechocmorechoc

Thanks for your response! Haha at least I'm not the only one! Part of me thinks I'm being silly but at the same time I thought it was strange- like fair enough if we were having a big party, more cake the merrier! But for a small family gathering I thought it was not needed.

@saiditbetterthanme thank you for your reply, that is a good idea about freezing it- as a complete cake noob wasn't sure if you could freeze cake with fondant, but if you can then that is what we'll do to avoid waste! Agreed there are worse things to worry about haha. I think perhaps the lockdown has done funny things to me lol x

@saiditbetterthanme people aren't worked up...yet! But I'm awaiting the update of the in-laws coming round with the most extravagent cake you have ever seen and MIL binning OPs queue: outrage.

@hulahoopqueen that is a good idea! I could always suggest that to the in laws. Its like I've put my blood, sweat and tears in to this cake. The last cake I made was in year 11 food tech and it exploded in the oven. So I was so meticulous to get this cake looking/tasting as nice as possible! X

@Horehound haha you say that but that is what I was worried about, their cake will most probably be better and outshine mine! Not outrage, queue:silent slow tear drop

What does the cake look like? Is there a theme?
I'm interested now. I had my song a Ra Ra lion cake.

Son*

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Lol. just say oh it looks great bit if you don't mind I want him to see mummies cake and blow out the candle in the cake I made for him. Or something.

That seems a very odd and pointless thing to do.

Definitely don't throw the unwanted cake away because it would be a waste of food. But if you don't want to freeze it (either lack of freezer space or because you and your dh are cutting back on sugar) you could put it out for the birds or foxes (if you have them where you are).

@Horehound The theme I've gone for is "Little Baby Bum" my son enjoys the songs and characters on there! I've made little figurines out of fondant and made bunting etc! Ahh Raa Raa lion that a nice theme :)

@cariadlet thanks for your reply, hopefully we will have room to squeeze in freezer, but if not that is a good idea about giving to birds foxes - we are in a rural area I'm sure a cheeky fox or hedgehog might have a nibble! I mean it beats a worm right! X