For those finished having babies, did you know you were done?

[Bouj]

Won't bore you with my current dilemma of 'shall I, shan't I' have another baby (but I am really stressed about it!) Just wondered who felt 'done'. I don't, but will I after another? Would I have to keep going, driven by hormones, until I've given birth to a small village? Aargh, would love to be done at 2. So much more convenient...

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I have 3 ds's and I knew I wasn't done after 1 & 2. I think I'm done now (most days I'm much surer than that!) but have to admit to bouts of broodiness and a certain wistfulness that I might never be pregnant again and have the joy/stress of a newborn. I keep telling myself taht being broody doesn't necessarily mean that I want another baby, but if I'm honest, sometimes I think it might!
A lovely midwife once told me that in her long experience women who didn't feel done usually weren't - however many babies they'd had/wanted She said most women just seemed to know....
How old are your two?

have no idea if i am done or not. am also stressed about it bouj. think it is important to want another child, not another baby iyswim.

I thought practically I was done after three, but emotionally not. Now expecting number 4 in 3 weeks. Feel done - financially, emotionally and physically. Although - am still thinking no snip just in case in five years' time, when I'm 40 I want to try for a late one...

Hiya

I have 3 dd's.

After dd1, i KNEW i wanted more children, dh was reluctant but agreed and we had dd2. After dd2, dh said definitely no more and i was DESPERATE for another.

I kept chipping and chipping away and i now have dd3

I can honestly say that there is NO WAY i want any more, thankfully (i thought id be broody forever!! lol)

3 is the 'right' number for me ...and i honestly believe that you'll know when the 'right' number is for you!

xx

I feel done now with three. Definately felt very broody after both one and two, but that feeling has definately gone now. Funny how most people feel done after three!

i wasnt sure after ds3. now ds4 is here the thought of any more brings me out in a cold sweat. i am done

I thought I wasn't done after dd2

but then at around 8 months it wore off

and she is nearly 3 now and good grief I don't want any more of the little blighters

I wasn't absolutely sure I was done, until dd was about 3 and one of my friends had another. And then I realised, I just could NOT do all that again.

Aargh, I'm going again, aren't I?? Thanks all, appreciate it. Think that's it exactly, morethanmum, I feel practically done, but not emotionally. Boys are 4 and a half and 17 months. I think I have been trying to convince myself I am done, because it would be so much easier. Am bloody terrified now.

I know im am done, i am only 20 but once i would look at a baby and think 'i want one!' now i look at one and think ' your cute, now go back to your mom!'

HI

When we moved here from the UK I felt I was finished with babies, my boys were then 3 and 5 , I sold all baby stuff etc etc.. Then about 6 months ago the broodiness hit me........
I'm currently 5wks+4 days and I'm 38!!

Deb

Thanks all. Back to square one with decision. Ds2 up all bloody night again, and DH less than helpful (a lot less) again. Feel I can't do another on my own. Seems I breed bad sleepers. Think another would kill me. Makes me sad to think I won't have another, but sad is better than totally mental due to lack of sleep!

Ohhhhh, don't do anything drastic though. I was offered a sterilisation with section at number 3 - luckily consultant warned me I would be, and told me NOT to accept! So, he is totally responsible for number 4 (although DH helped a bit by having another birthday).

Really glad I left the option there. If you're maybe not done wait and see how you feel.