sorry...another rant about MIL!!!!

[2wildbabies]

She seems to know when I am at my lowest and choose that time to pick on me. I used to be a very happy, confident person until I had a child and MIL turned horrid.

She was p**d off I had a girl in the beginning...when she had predicted a boy. Knitted cardigans in blue, bought lots of boy stuff, etc.......then when it was a girl (coz you can't choose theses things!) she bought her nothing. No presents, nothing at all. Even for her first birthday she didn't bother to wrap her pressie and she bought an alphabet thing for a 3 year old!!! Now I know dd knew nothing about her birthday, but it was special for me and MIL cheapened it.

Anyway, I have had her accuse me of not letting her spend time with my kids because she has a habit of ringing in the morning to come down that day....and once I had to say I was going out which set off all hell!!!! Dh spoke to her and said to try and plan to come down, as it was unfair for her to expect me to stay in every day in case she wanted to come down. But she took this as I was stopping hr seeing the kids and I have suffered since.

She doesn't care about me or the kids which is fine....if that's how she wants things, then so be it. I've made so many efforts to fit in with her, but not anymore. You know, I had that lump cheched in my reast and she didn't even care about it.When dh eventualy told her....she wasn't bothered and didn't wish me luck or anything. Now she has just been on the phone to dh and said how she hasn't seen the kids for a whle and why couldn't we take them to her house.

Now, I know I could give in again and take them along, but why should I. She doesn't care about me and only sees the kids once in a blue moon now coz she can't be arsed taking time out of her life to come and visit. I don't see why I just bow down to her commands yet again.

I hate life.....it is crap!!!!

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oh if I do that, I get comments when she arrives on pre-arranged day like 'I have been summoned'. She is such a nasty person.

BTW It was dh's birthday a few weeks ago and she got him a card with a race car on the front...and no pressie. It's as if she is punishing him for marrying me.

What does DH think, 2wildbabies? My mil is a pain sometimes (just very very silly - and compares my DS and sil's DS all the time - who's got the biggest smile, cutest whatever, etc - grr!) but it sounds like you need to talk to DH about this. Can he get her to pull her head in? Silly cow for knitting in blue though - what an idiot! I'd have been hurt about 1st birthday too - just remember you're better than she is and that you don't care what she thinks (easier said than done, I know). Hugs! xxx

My MIL is very possessive of Dh and DD.I have a ds from previous relationship who she treats really differently.Mainly I dislike the way she thinks my DH and DD are HERS!!
I had to sit DH down and explain how she made me feel and he actually started to see for himself.

dh and I have been on the verge of breaking up over her.....but he has actually seen how she is for himself. He fell out with a friend of his a couple of years back. MIL knew this friend as dh and friend had been mates since primary school and MIL is still friends with his mum.......so, coz I caused the arguement (long story...friends wife a cow!!) she has been saying to dh behind my back that he and friend should still talk as they have known each other for a long time, etc. SHe would prefer dh to go against my feelings over this.

She actually said to my mum a while back that she was shocked dh had stayed married to me and she figured he would have left me by now!!! Nice woman!!!

I loathe and detest my mil, and she and dh know it. We have banned her from any contact with us now. Life is much sweeter.