I have changed my nickname but am very regular poster.
My DS is 8 years and I childmind a boy 2 years old, that has been here since baby.
DS is jealous of other boy and tries to hurt him sometimes. I get cross with DS and am sometimes TOO strict with him and he says that I just blame him when he doesn't even do or say anything. Like if childmind boy falls over I tell DS off and he will just be sitting on sofa watching TV nowhere near boy.
I have explained that he should not tell off little boy or try to hurt him as I would not like it if I had left him and he was being told off by older child.
I feel guilty though that I am not giving enough attention or affection to DS when other boy here. THE THING IS HE DOES ACTUALLY LIKE THIS LITTLE BOY. He does NOT hurt the little boy much it is small things like telling him to take his feet off the car seat backs and doors which little boy keeps kicking. DS is not allowed to.
I think part of it is that he behaves to childminded boy as if he was a brother. He sees his friends do the same sort of things like rough and tumble etc to their brothers or sisters.
BTW DS is an only child
What else can I do? Help please?