So I am happily married. But many moons before DH, I had a boyfriend who was my first real love. We were together 5 years and he completely broke my heart by dumping me in a fairly underhand way. It took me years and years to stop thinking about him.
I know he'd probably annoy the living hell out of me now. But some kind of perverse curiously really wants to find out what he's up to - and if I'm honest, I want to show him that I now run my own successful business, have two lovely boys, a great husband etc. Basically I want to say: see I survived despite you.
I know I shouldn't care and that if I'd truly moved on he wouldn't even enter my head. But he's turned up on Facebook (through another friend). He hasn't asked me to be his friend, but I don't think he'd know my surname and I look completely different now. Even if he did know it was me, I'd be gobsmacked if he got in touch as I think he moved on pretty much instantly.
I don't want to ask him to be my
'friend'', particularly as it feels disloyal to my DH. But I really want a sneaky peak at his profile. And I do think it's sad that people who were so close for so long can't now as adults have a quick catch up just to say 'how ya doin?'
But is it wrong to get in touch with exes? Is it just opening up a can of worms? Is it disloyal? Or do you do it?