Stag do swingers visit

[Oceanswirl]

Hello

I'm looking for some advice please. I snooped (I know) at my partners location history from last year. He went on a stag do to Benidorm and it showed him in MNHQ redacted name swingers sex club from 5am - almost 11am. Now I may be being naive here but he cheated right? You don't go to these clubs to stand in a corner. Is there any chance I could have the wrong end of the stick? There was also a smear of, what looked like, pink lipstick on his collar when he returned on a shirt in his bag. I was cheated on many times by my ex so I'm not sure what's real and what's not right now. How on earth do I broach this and what if I'm wrong? Help me please!

What prompted you to check on his locations from last year?

The lipstick thing always bugged me. Plus he had a 2 pack of a different type of condoms in his bag on his return too. He said they were for us at our previous stay in a hotel and that they were just still in the bag but that's not what he'd normally buy. So I looked as I wondered if he stayed at another hotel. I didn't expect to see that.

Can you buy 2 pack condoms in shops or are they normally vending machines?

I've been married a loooong time so haven't bought condoms since the last century, but I don't remember them normally coming in two-packs from a shop.

I think the only way forward is to speak to him. Have you any other reasons besides condoms, lipstick and swingers' club to believe he has been unfaithful?

Obviously I have never been on a stag do, but I can imagine people probably go along with the crowd - do you know if most of the other attendees were single?

I believe 1 guy was single. I don't want to be a fool especially with being one before. I have no idea what to believe at all.
As for anymore reasons, he bought new boxers to take over. All could be innocent I know but it also paints an awful picture doesn't it. If it was a brief visit then maybe but he was there until the next morning. What would you think?

It would make me suspicious but I think I'd look at the wider context of the relationship before making a definite judgement, and I would talk to him and see what his reaction was.

Thank you. Sound advice but he'd never admit it for sure. A reaction may help me.

How accurate is the location on his phone? I've never used it so genuinely don't know. Was the club close to where he was staying? He could have just gone home at 5am and woke up at 11 for breakfast but the GPS showed him at the club?

How did he explain the lipstick?

It seems accurate but you never know do you. As to the lipstick he said he had no idea. ugh.

The hotel wasn't on the same street or anything. But not really far either from what I could see.

His hotel in Benidorm wasn't far from Cupid Swingers club?

That's odd. As it was in Alicante, an hours drive away.

He was there 5am until 11am? Again, odd as although it's permanently closed it's opening hours were 5pm til midnight.

OP I've had a look on their website and it doesn't look like they are open at those hours?

Maybe I'm being naive but it's possibly a misunderstanding.

Have you ever had reason to distrust him before?

Could he have left his phone there by mistake?

Thank you for helping! That's kind of you. There's 2 clubs with similar names and the one he was placed at was in Benidorm. It was open when he went according to some google searches. Also a forum said open until much later. I guess there's no way of really knowing is there.

Have you asked him about the swingers club? What does he say?

A lot of men cheat on stag do's it's almost expected to some extent, either stripper, prostitute, private dance etc.
I was lucky mine wasn't interested and declined these type of male cheating parties.
Yes, he cheated, sorry

I suppose the only thing is if the location wasn't accurate. Otherwise yes I guess he did.
I asked and he said he had no idea what the place was and that he went to the hotel at that time which is what he said at the time too. A few hours sleep then out for the day. Which he was. The club forum said it closes at 5am so perhaps he couldn't have been there and it is just a common google glitch. I've just looked at my location history and it's saying I've been to places near to where I actually was. I guess the lesson is not to snoop as not much good comes out of it. My bad perhaps, in a weak moment. He always been a seemingly honest, calm and kind man and I'd never peg him for one to cheat but who really knows. Not much I can do now so hopefully not hey.

"A lot of men cheat on stag do's it's almost expected to some extent, either stripper, prostitute, private dance etc.
I was lucky mine wasn't interested and declined these type of male cheating parties.
Yes, he cheated, sorry"

@Devlesko "cheating parties"? Get a grip, that's not true at all. What about stag parties that go hiking in the Dales? Are the local barmaids waiting to shag them all?

OP whatever you've found in his phone it's bloody unlikely that he was in the club you initially said at that time. They aren't open at that time. Which club was it because the one you named is actually in Alicante despite being touted as a "Benidorm" swingers club.

A male friend shocked me recently when he openly bragged about the stag do he had arranged for another mutual friend in Prague, where the only man who attended and didn't go with a prostitute was mocked and seen as boring and miserable. All of the men who attended were married or had partners. I am not saying that all staff parties are like this - my stepson had a stag party in London where they all went to a football match and then clubbing, but women did not feature - but from the unrepentant way my friend discussed this one, and other trips where this lone man has refused to engage with strippers or anything seedy (waiting outside brothels etc), it seems ordinary to that group. It has made me see them in a different light.

Youhave4substirutes it was just the name of the marker on location settings but google states there's 2 clubs. Maybe it is an error but you're right the timing is off and doesn't make sense. The club was shut then so it's impossible. On reflection my gut says he didn't and with a previous partner my gut said he was and - he was. It's my own silly fault for looking which was totally the wrong thing to do. Perhaps I got what I deserved for snooping. Never again and lesson learnt.