Tell me what is normal in nursery!

[Angeliz]

Hi, as a few of you may know (as some of you have eased me into it ) dd aged 3.6 started nursery a few weeks ago.
After quite a few awful teary goodbyes, she seems to be coming round and has made a few freinds and goes in no problems now.
However, when i picked her up today, the teacher said she'd had a few weepy moments today and was a little quiet and had said " David hit me!"
(David id her imaginary freind and when dd is really upset and doesn't want to tell, she blames David!). DD ran off at this point so conversation with teacher was cut short.
Later this evening after a lovely day on the beach, dd just burst into tears and started gusghing about this little boy in her class that scares her and apparently she was upset as he'd tryed to fling a toy at her!!He has been mentioned a few times by dd and also marked her leg once by driving into her on a bike.
ANYWAY, the result is, now she's all teary again and doesn't want to go and i can see tears in the morning. I will have a quiet chat with the teacher about her imaginary freind and the boy who obviously intimidates her. Is this just normal stuff from now on????

I've just changed DDs nursery and the one she goes to now is far less rough and tumble than her previous place (preferred the previous one tbh).

She used to come home every so often with a scratch or a bruise and tell me it who'd done it -sometimes she'd say it was an accident, sometimes a tussle - was never distressed over any of these incidents however. I took it with a pinch of salt, but wouldn't have if it had not been one-offs.

My DD has been in nursery from a baby tho' so probably not typical of your situation.

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thanksMum2girls+++

Yup .. unfortunately I think it is

Now is when they start interacting with all kinds of people .. some nice, some not-so-nice .. and at this age some unable to control their tempers / fists

As long as she is in a caring, calm environment it will be good for her to learn how to cope in these situations

Doesn't stop you wanting to rush in like a knight on a white charger screaming 'step back from the liddle lady' though does it .. sorry this can hurt so much .. its the beginning to realise that you can no longer be in control of every influence that is difficult as a parent

Listen to how wise I sound .. my DS is same age

Not sure if it helps, but when my DS first started nursery, he really enjoyed it, but after about a month we had tears each time he went, and I had to pick him up early a couple of times as he wouldn't stop crying.

We persevered through the difficult patch(about 3 weeks), and now he's back to loving it again.

I think it was after the initial period of novelty wore off, he changed his mind about wanting to go, but we stuck it out, and he's really enjoying it now.

AMFS.. (bit like mumsnet then?!!)

I think littles ones all react differently to the nursery environment, and some are bound to take their insecurities out in a more dstructive/aggressive way.

angeliz,
The teacher needs to be made aware of this boy (she probably already is).
I suggest you give dd lots of hugs and support,and let her make use of her imaginary friend (perhaps you can talk about him too, as her protector or someone who will take care of her whilst at nursery?)

Thanks everyone
Am off to bed now but will have a quick word with the teacher and let you know how i get on. Nice to know i'm not just being neurotic!!