What should I tell my DD??

[sharonruth1982]

My DD is in year 10, soon to be in year 11. She's quite an...eccentric girl to say the least. We were talking about her prom, since she might get one if the virus situation improves.

Not conforming to usual fashion ideas, DD has told me she'd like to wear one of the following:
-A Daenerys Targaryen cosplay dress (she's been searching the internet them)
-A zoot suit (again, she's been searching the internet for them)
-A casual womens' suit (not as keen on this idea as the others, but open to it)

None of these are traditional prom dresses that most girls would be wearing. I'm proud of my DD for being so unique and self-assured, but I'm scared she'd get made fun of by some of her peers. She's generally well-liked, even with some of the more popular kids, but I wouldn't want her night to be ruined by silly kids being cruel.

I know it's a 50/50 chance she'll actually get a prom, but I really want to know what you'd tell your DD if she wanted to dress in any of them outfits for her prom. I really don't want to discourage her individuality (at times she can be a little unaware that she can be considered odd), since she already has a unique dress sense (she wears blazers and t-shirts with stuff from her favourite TV shows on them) and she seems quite confident, something she can struggle with.

Please tell me what you'd do in this situation!!

I would support her choices, definitely. It's not my job to preempt bullying.

I'd let her wear whatever she wanted. Although I'd probably encourage the danerys dress, just because I loved all of her clothes on got.

I wore a non traditional prom dress to mine. Nobody said anything negative about it.

Daenerys wears some lovely floaty dresses that could work for prom (I assume she doesn't mean the thick dresses near the end of the series as it's hot in July)

What are her friends wearing? If they are also likely to make unusual choices then I'd leave her to it but she'll probably want to brainstorm with them before commiting

To be honest it sounds like she's just brainstorming some routes she's looked at. The chances are her final choice will be a million miles away from those. If they're not? It's not the end of the world! I can recall (begging 😳), my 6'3 male sibling to loan me a velveteen ridiculous overpriced 'couture' puffa jacket to wear (swank) to a party in my teens! I'm 5'8 it looked horrific! 😂 But I actually got a lot of 'oooooh's!, is that an X coat?'.... Even though I obviously looked a right bell end! Moral of the story is teens will do whatever fashion failures they want, and can normally carry it off of they feel 'its a look!'.

Let her wear what she wants,

First I don’t see why you think her having a prom is a 50/50 chance? It’s over a year from now unless you are predicting some other catastrophe??? ☹️

But for the main point just let her imagine for the minute and support whatever she wants, you won’t be buying anything this year so there’s time for here to either change her mind or grow stronger in her love for one of the choices. She’ll be happier wearing something she wants to, whatever that is