What to do - warning this post might offend people

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I really don't know where to start with this one, what even to write or even what section to post this in. This post might cause people offence and if so I apologise. Im in a position where I honestly don't know what to do for the best.
A guy I know, who I would I was class as a friend. He's got a girlfriend Who I've never met. Anyway he's confided in me a couple of times what she drinks too much and they've had a few arguments drunk, she allegedly hit him too a few weeks ago.
Last night he sent me a picture of her asleep at 8pm saying she was drunk. This morning I messaged to see if he was ok, he said yes fine she was ok when she woke up. Then he messaged again and said 'anyway I had my way with her last night, she was so drunk she didn't even wake up and doesn't know and I videoed it'. I was speechless, I can't believe he would do this and laugh about it and make a joke and tell me like there is nothing wrong.
I haven't relied because I just don't know what to say. DSo I tell his girlfriend? Will he deny it? I'll be made out to be a liar?
But if someone had sex with me without my knowledge and videod I'd want to know

No you phone the police and screenshot what this sick rapist has said to you.

You need to tell her.

And get rid of him as a friend.

Well its rape

So I'd report it to the police.

@RyanBergarasTeeth

No you phone the police and screenshot what this sick rapist has said to you.

Yes, that's better than what I was going to say

Make sure you screenshot it before he deletes it. Then I'm afraid I would be speaking to the police. Sick bastard.

Yes I've screen shot the message. I thought to myself that I need to go to the police but I think I should try and get in touch with her and leave that decision to her. I can't sleep worrying about this

I would show the screen shots to the police first and ask their advice as to if you should tell her .
Personally a would be wary about telling her she doesn't know you so may think you are making it up ( unless you actually show her the SS )
or she may confront the sick bastard and he could get violent .

You need to contact the police immediately. It is morally reprehensible not to. Your "friend" is a rapist.

What a bastard. I agree with the others - tell the police.

She may not be safe. Please do what you can to safeguard her from a distance and let the authorities decide how best to manage this crime. The fallout for you could be huge - we don’t know for a fact that you’re safe (from him) if you tell her.

Tell the police.

Don't engage with either go directly to the police. Then block him.

Tell the police before you tell her. If she knows, then it will give him a chance to manipulate and gaslight her. He will tell her that he was joining and that she enjoyed it, but it isn’t her fault that she’s too drunk to remember. If you tell the police and they speak to her first, then he won’t get near the poor girl. He’s a rotten bastard.

If he asks why you haven’t responded, tell him ‘busy, talk later’ and just leave it. Don’t arise his suspicions. At the minute, he thinks he’s safe telling you, otherwise he would have kept it secret.

I wouldn’t tell the police, I’d tell her.
What do the police do in that situation? do they speak to her, go to her property? I would rather know personally, it’s my choice if I go the police... imo

This is absolutely awful but this thread is from June. I hope the OP has sorted something by now.

Agree with what a PP said. Call the police! You may be able to stay anonymous although he might guess it was you anyway. Personally I wouldn’t care if he knew it was me cos I wouldn’t want to stay friends with someone who did that. Disgusting! I’d call sooner rather than later too. They may be able to take his phone to find the video hopefully before he decides to send it to people or upload it online

@CatRamsey wish I read before I commented. I didn’t even notice when this thread was posted.
I hope OP sorted something too