Friends who don't drive

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Does anyone else's friend doesn't drive but expect lifts everywhere? Doesn't offer petrol money but is wanting to do things and go places does it bother you? My friend lives on the other side of town 15 mins drive from mines but I live closer to everything ?

Not relevant at the moment surely. No one should be giving anyone lifts.

Well yes because we work together so I take him home after work but I hate it because we work late and I just want to go straight to bed with the lockdown being eased he wants to come sunbathe at mines as he lives in a flat

Urgh nooooo to all of that! He shouldn’t be in your car, or sunbathing at yours all the time either. No car sharing allowed in lockdown!

Even if there wasn’t a corona virus, he’s a cheeky fucker and you should get rid :)

But we work late together so there's no buses on at night as he lives in the middle of nowhere he's a close friend and has always expected lifts so I feel awkward just brining it up now

I hate this so much. When I passed my test I was the only one in my friendship group who could drive so they all took the piss expecting free lifts everywhere.

My ex didn't drive and would expect me to go into work 3 hours early so that he could make it in on time. His family were bad too, they'd expect me to drive 10 miles away from my house to pick them up, to bring them back to a park near my house and then take them home again.

Whenever I'm at my friends house her mum always rings and wants something and says 'well Cat drives so she can go and get it.' If I say no they accuse me of being difficult, it's like they think I don't have a life outside of driving.

I don't think I've ever been offered money for doing a favour. Most of the time I don't mind at all, I think the worst thing is when they just expect you to do it without asking or checking first.

Name change fail OP

Yehh its so anoying how did you get out of this I find it quite awkward as I love doing things with him plus he never leaves my house when he's over till I offer him a lift home

Name change fail? What you on about lol

People who do this are cheeky as fuck

I hate it

It's bad enough as teenagers when the first one to drive's friends expect lifts all the time (happened to me)

It's Really, really entitled (and tragic) when people do it as adults
Don't stand for it op

Name change fail? What you on about lol

No need to be arsey about it, I did it to be nice - I noticed your original post had a different name to your replies and thought you'd want to know in case you had name changed due to not wanting to be recognised or linked to other posts.

Yeah your name has changed.

Also how is he sunbathing in the dark?

Just say no, sorry but that doesn’t work for me - I want to go to bed. You shouldn’t be taking him anywhere except work at the moment so it’s not an issue if he wants to “do things and go places” - you can’t.

Like we are both 30 now n I do give him the odd lift but I really hate doing it I hate driving !!!! I love being lazy but I think ppl who don't drive don't think it's really a problem but the fact that they don't offer petrol money is anoying plus my car diesel goes down so fast

Sorry didn't mean to be cheeky but no I just wanted to change my username wasn't doing it to hide other links :)

@TestMyCovid

Yeah your name has changed.

Also how is he sunbathing in the dark?

That's what I wondered. How can you sunbathe if you work until late?

Because we don't work everyday and when we do don't start till about 5 or 6 so we have the full day no he's not sunbathing in the dark? Wouldn't be called sunbathing then would it? He doesn't have a garden where as I do

If you don’t work every day then you shouldn’t be picking him up on days you don’t work. Tell him it’s a work arrangement only. And tell him you want to go home to bed after work.

It's cheeky I think. I don't have a car and I would only accept a lift if it was offered and on the way for the driver if that makes sense. Wouldn't feel comfortable otherwise.

I don't know him through work he's my friend and it was me that got him the job we are close friends so we normally do do things out of work before corona 🙄🙄

Before corona. Not now. You shouldn’t be taking him anywhere outside of work now.

It is frustrating to be the person who drives when others don’t (and I say that as someone who got loads of lifts off my DP because I was too anxious to drive myself - now resolved thankfully), but if you want a contribution to petrol or to go home and not sunbathe, then you need to tell your friend those things. If they’re a good friend they won’t mind contributing.