I offered to raise a pet for a friend alongside my own from the same litter. The agreement was we would go halves in the cost of food. The friend and I picked the animals up together and she paid for hers. For the first few weeks, Friend and Partner visited and would bring food. Then Partner was due to bring more which didn’t arrive and I had to go and pick it up as Friend was unwell.
I hadn’t seen her for a few weeks due to her being unwell and COVID etc but would message to ask after her every few days.
A vehicle like the Partner’s business one (I am a client of the business) was in the area and I messaged her again to ask if he had been around thinking he might be dropping food in. The friend confirmed he had been in the area. However, he did not bring any food for the animal.
Part B is we are having ongoing difficulties with a neighbour and I have been confiding in Friend. When Partner’s car was in the area, Friend’s reply included that our difficult neighbour was now a client as well. The friend went into detail (I didn’t ask, but it was of nosy interest) in regard to the goings-on at the neighbour’s which Partner would have had to have told her, however, ended it saying we do not discuss our Clients…
I have since messaged her to ask if she is feeling better (has been active on social media), the message has been read but no reply.
She hasn’t been in contact at all or asked after the pet either…
I’m torn if I should message again or just keep feeding the animal and send an email when its time it should leave. On the one hand I don’t feel I should have to keep asking for food. On the other hand, if Friend feels compromised by our friendship because of their new business clientele, then I don’t want to put her on the spot as I think I will just get narky that I was a friend first and foremost which doesn't resolve anything but would create ill-feeling.
My DD says at least I know not to offer to do it again. Any MN’s have another strategy or do I just suck it up and see?