Hi all, just looking for some advice. My hubby and I regularly fight, usually every few months when I bring up the issue of sex (or lack of). It’s the same every time, we argue, he apologises and promises to ‘make an effort’ and a few days letter we have sex then repeat a few months later as nothing’s changed. This has been going on for a few years now. I need more passion, I want someone who wants me and shows me affection, there’s none of that and when I mention or try to instigate sex, there’s always an excuse, he has a sore foot, is tired, isn’t feeling well or he’s low (he’s always low!) I could go on! He’s generally a misery to be honest. I have to wake him up every day, give him instructions on what needs doing in house etc. and help him with everything, I feel like I have another child and it’s exhausting. I want a man to look after me and take charge which he never does! Don’t get me wrong I love him and he’s great around the house etc (with instructions) and generally with the kids (though he has little patience with them) but I need more. Our whole relationship has been me driving everything and him always unwell (with nothing serious, he just moans about everything). I found out last year I had breast cancer and had to have a double mastectomy, chemo and radiotherapy. He looked after me and was really worried (I have no doubt that he loves me) but it very much made me realise how short life is and that I want to enjoy every minute and also that I really worry if something happens to me, he couldn’t cope and would just fall apart and not give the kids what they need (they’re 9 and 16). Sorry I know that’s a lot but had to get it all out, I don’t know what to do, I can’t sweep my needs under the carpet, I’ve tried and it doesn’t work. His lack of get up and go is exhausting and infuriating but the lack of sex is one of the biggest issues for me to be honest. I’ve even considered having an affair which I know is awful but I can’t help how I feel.