me and my OH have been together for 10 years and have a 9 yr old DD over the course of our relationship there have been issues he has previously accused me of cheating several times (which I never have)at one point on a daily basis there was also an incident of him screaming in my daughters face also another where he put his arms around me from behind and I couldn't move it was terrifying although he's only physically hurt me twice in our whole relationship .we broke up for a short while however he managed to find his way back into my life he has always been paranoid however he has recently been prescribed anti depressants I know I'm not perfect I know I drink too much at the end of the day .So come to last night I'd drunk a bottle of rose and was going to bed at about 2Am he'd only just got up after 5 mins he came storming into the bedroom pulled one of my 'special' toys out of the drawer threw it in my face and began ranting about how I was a selfish bitch who neglects him and how I should carry on playing with myself (side note i wasnt and rarely do)before storming out . I feel like this is abuse however I've never been able to see a way out of this and have resigned myself to this life . I worry about my daughter and how this will affect her does anyone have any advice or suggestions or similar experiences?