Exp makes me feel uncomfortable

[tammybear]

I just want to get other opinions on this. Exp and I have been trying to get on for dd's sake. But he was in a bad mood the other day and took things out on me. I said that werent my job anymore to listen to his crap so just "walked away" from the conversation. He then later apologised. He said things like "i think the only thing that has kept me goin is gettin along with u" and "i shudnt have jeopardised somethin thats kept me goin" and it made me feel sick. To me it sounded like he was hoping us getting along would lead to us getting back together or something (maybe Im just looking too deeply into it but I know what he's like) It makes me feel so uncomfortable and I said this to him. Would this make you feel uncomfortable?

just a little advice... you will find it much, much easier to get on with your ex when it comes to letting your dd go for visitation than not. Trust me I have been there.
If I felt that my ex was unloading all his problems on me then I would quite rightly point out that that is his life and I have mine, so unless it is something to do with the children, then I would not be interested as I have my own problems and life to deal with.
It sounds like your ex is sending you on a guilt trip by those comments.
If I was in your situation, I would firstly check that I was not in anyway giving wrong/mixed signals, if there was no chance of me and the ex getting back together. Then I would make that perfectly clear to him, but also let him know that it would be good to still be friends as you both have a common interest.
GL it's such a difficult situation to be in, but so common these days. It is sad when I look back to when I was a kid, it was unheard of for parents of kids not to be together and there were only a handful, now it seems if you have parents that are together you are not part of the norm.

sorry you are having these problems with your ex-p, tammybear, and I can completely see why you feel uncomfortable. I think all you can do is not encourage it, by changing the subject (overtly or covertly). I would avoid saying it was making you feel uncomfortable, as if he thinks you are feeling guilty over it, then he will know that he is having some effect, so he won't have any incentive to stop tryig to guilt trip you. I think you have to "think toddler taming" in these situations; ignore bad behaviour, don't give him any incentive to carry on.