So bloody angry with dh - someone please talk to me

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DH went out last night for a few beers with his brother to watch the rugby. I went to bed at 11 pm and wasnt worried as i expected him to be home at about 12. I woke up 3/4 hour ago and he wasn't home, wasn't answering his phone etc and I started to get worried so i rang BIL's phone and SIL answered to say BIL had been home for about 1/2 hour and was plastered. I rang dh's phone again and again until he answered and he is pissed out of his head. He's talking nonsence and told me he'd been hit by people and he didn't know where he was. I had a go becuase he's due in at work at 7.30 tomorrow morning and he's already in trouble so he hung up on me and put the phone down.

This is where we were at when i started writing this post - 1/2 way through he has turned up at the door - his face is covered in bruises and grazes and is swollen and he wants my sympathy FFS I just want to smack him myself i am so bloody angry. i started this thread becuase I was so worried about him as he wasn't back and didn't know where he was. i rang his Mum as well I was so worried and so now we're all bloody awake I wanted someone on here to keep me calm as i didn't know what to do or how to find him. Now i could just do with some company.

Thanks earlybird

The fight was before i spoke to him. i think he smashed his phone because i had a go at him for getting so drunk and worrying me.

He came home at 9 am as he was too rough to be in work - then he went back at 1pm and i've just been to pick him up as he's starting to really feel it now.

He is going to look such a mess but one good thing is that after he showered it was clear that he hadn't hit anyone which is good. he thinks he was hit just the once but it was a nasty punch. He reckons his nose isn't broken and won't go to a+e to check it out but at least he's ok.

I called the police to see if i could find out what happened but the officer that dealt with it wont be on till tonight so dh is going to call him and ask if they know what happened as he really doesn't remember.

Now he had completely sobered up he is embarrassed and full of remorse and I cant stay angry with him. I'm still pissed off that he could be aso irresponsible and get so drunk when he had work but he's certainly paying for it now so I'm being nice and have made him tea.

I ended up divorced because my exdh behaved like this all the time. I simply don't accept this level of inconsiderate immaturity in my life and I wonder whether you should either.
Getting pissed is fun but no fun if you wind up hurting yourself and your family imo.

Trust me newlife if this was a regular occurance then I would feel just the same as you but its really not. He doesn't go out often - maybe 4 times a year - and usually only has one really drunken night a year when he goes out with his staff for the Xmas party. He's never had any trouble on one of those either.

He is mortified by his behaviour now as he should be and as i knew he would be. I somehow don't think he'll be in a hurry to repeat the experience anytime soon.

In that case it is obviously inconsiderate but perhaps a situation where a bollocking and the benefit of the doubt is in order.

Men are silly often.

I think you are right newlife

BIL can't understand why SIL is furious with him but they just don't think about how worrying it is for those of us at home.

I am actually starting to feel a tiny bit sorry for him now - especially as I know he is worried about how it is going to look when he has to see his boss at work.

Men really can be very silly I agree